In this episode of Surviving Parenthood, host Vida Carey sits down with Shelli Stanley, a fellow neurodivergent parent, for a heartfelt and eye-opening conversation about the realities of raising children while managing autism, ADHD, and everyday life.

Together, they explore the transformative impact of a diagnosis, how it brings clarity and understanding, and how communication and self-advocacy become vital tools in building healthier family dynamics. Shelly opens up about her journey through overstimulation, the challenges of societal expectations, and how she’s learned to adapt her parenting strategies to align with her neurodivergent strengths.

This deeply honest conversation sheds light on the emotional complexity of parenting while neurodivergent — and offers hope, validation, and practical insight for anyone walking a similar path.

Key Takeaways

• Parenting can be uniquely challenging — and rewarding — for neurodivergent individuals.
• A diagnosis provides clarity and helps reframe past experiences.
• Open communication builds stronger relationships with children.
• Overstimulation is real and can significantly impact parenting.
• Self-advocacy matters for both parents and children.
• Active listening and observation help meet children’s needs more effectively.
• Parenting strategies can (and should) be tailored to neurodivergent traits.
• Societal expectations can shape — and sometimes strain — parenting approaches.
• Alcohol is sometimes used as a coping mechanism, but it is a slippery slope. Awareness can lead to healthier stress management.
• Reflection and growth are key parts of evolving as a parent.

Keywords: neurodivergent parenting, autism, ADHD, parenting challenges, relationships, communication, diagnosis, overstimulation, self-advocacy, growth