My guest today is Emily Jacob - she created the ReConnected Life coaching programmes because the tools are what she wishes she had had during her recovery from rape. Emily believes that we shouldn’t have to fashion our own healing pathways and she is a skilful guide for the women she supports.

In the conversation, Emily dropped a truth-bomb that has stuck with me since I heard it: "sometimes, the story we tell ourself about our trauma is more painful than what happened". We discuss this, along with:

• The difference between the end of treatment and trusting your recovery (6:10)
• Feeling like the "other in the room" (11:35)
• The privilege of using our voices (12:10)
• How coaching can help you after traumatic events (15:05)
• The myth of "it doesn't happen to people like me" (16:40)
• The importance of making connections (21:35)
• Rape and the criminal justice system (25:00)
• Defining "good" consent (31:00)
• What we can learn from the kink community (32:35)

Emily can be contacted via her website and you can find her on Facebook or Twitter as well.

If what you heard today resonated with you, please reach out to Emily or book yourself in for a chat. If you're looking for a network of lovely and loving people to support you, contact Emily for her secure Facebook community or join us in Port in the Storm - your new safe harbour. Whatever you need, we've got your back.