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In this episode of The Foster Dad Directive, I talk openly about grief and loss while parenting and fostering, sharing how closely these experiences collided in my own life. Within the same week, our toddler left to live with family on Veteran’s Day, and I lost my grandpa just days later. On top of that, 2023 brought the heartbreaking loss of two of my dogs, Perseus and Jade, both of whom I had to make end-of-life decisions for myself. I reflect on how different types of loss—family, pets, and foster placements—carry their own weight, yet often overlap in ways that make grieving even harder. I also discuss how high-emotion situations with foster youth, including running away and behavioral struggles, added extra strain during an already overwhelming season.

I share what has helped me navigate grief while still showing up as a caregiver: therapy, self-care, remembering loved ones in healthy ways, finding safe spaces to process emotions, and reassuring children through change. I talk about the importance of not bottling emotions, avoiding burnout, and giving yourself grace during exhausting seasons of parenting. I also emphasize that it’s okay to slow down, rest, and focus on mental health without guilt. Grief doesn’t follow a straight line, and neither does healing—but by taking care of ourselves, we become better equipped to care for the kids who depend on us. I close by reminding listeners that they are not alone in their grief, that their lives matter, and that there is always hope for tomorrow—even on the hardest days.

00:00 — Introduction & Personal Losses

Loss of your grandpa, pets, and changes during fostering.

01:19 — Disclaimer & Current Placement Update

Scope of the episode and brief respite update.

02:47 — Safety, Big Emotions & Foster Kids

Understanding emotional reactions in children entering care.

04:19 — Veterans Day, Toddler’s Departure & Grieving

Stacked losses in the same week and emotional impact.

05:58 — Losing Pets & Making End-of-Life Decisions

The emotional weight of choosing euthanasia for beloved dogs.

07:09 — Parenting While Actively Grieving

Balancing funerals, placements, and emotional regulation.

08:55 — Therapy as a Key Grief Tool

Processing loss, male stigma, and mental health support.

11:27 — Remembering Loved Ones & Healthy Reflection

Honoring memories without sinking into depression.

15:56 — Safe Spaces, Burnout & Self-Care

Avoiding overload, finding support, and protecting your energy.

17:56 — Reassuring Children & Final Encouragement

Helping kids feel secure while giving yourself grace.

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