Episode 12 - It’s Not Empathy—It’s Discomfort: Why Fixing Isn’t Helping
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Episode 12 - It’s Not Empathy—It’s Discomfort: Why Fixing Isn’t Helping
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About this listen
In this boundary-reset episode of The Glow Up Experience, Lindsay Jacobi unpacks a hard truth: the urge to “help” is often less empathy and more your discomfort with someone else’s feelings.
From a flustered bartender who misplaced a card to years of laughing off hurtful comments to keep the peace, Lindsay traces how high-functioning codependency becomes a covert self-abandonment strategy—and how to stop.
You’ll learn-
The difference between empathy (“I can witness your pain”) and enmeshment (“I can’t be OK until you are”)
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How “fixer energy” is a nervous-system coping mechanism, not a personality trait
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The pause–name–choose method to interrupt reflex rescuing
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Why prioritising others’ comfort over your own erodes self-trust
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Micro-boundaries that create connection without self-betrayal
Links & Resources
Free Glow Up Bundle: https://coaching.glowupcollective.co/glow-up-edition
90-Day Private Glow Up Coaching: https://glowupcollective.co
Instagram: @lindsaystewartjacobi