Pourquoi l’un a envie et pas l’autre ? Dans cet épisode, on explore en profondeur la discordance de désir dans le couple : ses causes (physiques, psychiques, culturelles), ce que vivent les deux partenaires, et comment en parler sans pression ni honte. Un sujet courant, mal compris… et souvent douloureux. Avec des études scientifiques, des exemples concrets, et des pistes pour mieux se comprendre à deux.

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