How do you survive—and eventually recognize—the BPD cycle of abuse, especially when you are already exhausted, confused, and questioning yourself.

In this episode, I break down the cycle as it actually unfolds in real life: The intense honeymoon phase, the sudden emotional whiplash, the accusations and character attacks, the breakups and reconciliations, and the long stretch of chaos that keeps you hooked through intermittent relief.

I talk about why this dynamic is so hard to recognize while you’re inside it, why your nervous system becomes hypervigilant, why you can’t sleep, why you’re constantly scanning for tone, mood shifts, and explosions, and why none of this means you’re weak, codependent, or “too sensitive.”

If you’ve ever felt like your body knew something was wrong long before your mind could accept it—this episode is for you.

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