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EP. 40 | STOP BEING THE GO-TO: YOUR "SUPER RESPONSIBLE" VIBE LEADS TO HFP BURNOUT

EP. 40 | STOP BEING THE GO-TO: YOUR "SUPER RESPONSIBLE" VIBE LEADS TO HFP BURNOUT

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 Are you the family's go-to person? If you're a highly functioning woman (HFP) struggling with anxiety, insomnia, and a crippling need to take care of everyone else, this episode is your intervention. I discussed with Licensed Therapist Ibiye Oyali to spill the tea on the super responsible identity, where people-pleasing is driven by cultural expectations and the "first-born girl" narrative. There is a difference between healthy excellence and paralyzing perfectionism, why you feel guilty for saying "no," and how to set luminous boundaries that protect your peace. Get the simple, strategic steps you need for HFP recovery—starting with the 80% rule. Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women. Thank You! For listening/Watching. ⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women. ✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠ Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible. Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident. WHAT NEXT? ✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose. ✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠ 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠ ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share. ✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠ ✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠ ✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom. 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. TRANSCRIPT Mav: Hey, hey, hey, welcome everyone. Today's show is going to be very exciting and I'm already pumped up to hear everything about the high functioning processing. And with me today on the show is Ibinye. Ibinye is back today. Ibinye, thank you so much for coming in again. Mav: Ibinye Oyali is a licensed marriage and family therapist, as well as a coach for highly sensitive women. As a coach, she helps women manage big emotions, stand up by themselves, by certain healthy boundaries, and finally stop people pleasing. And as a therapist, her practice focuses on anxiety, insomnia, and couples' relationships. Mav: She works with high achieving women who struggle with anxiety and the need to take care of everyone else. She helps couples learn how to communicate better, create a stronger connection and resolve conflicts faster. Finally, she helps people with insomnia quickly fall asleep and stay asleep without pills or drastically changing their lifestyle. I think that is really holistic. Mav: Welcome, Ibiya. Thank you so much for having me back, Marvel. So today we're going to discuss, as I introduced earlier, the highly functioning pressing. Ibiya, please tell me, in your own expertise and experience and clinical observations, who would you say is a highly functioning pressing? So in my practice, Mav: I like to call them the super responsible member of the family. That's how I like to describe them. So the one person that everybody can turn to, whether at work, even at home, because it bleeds from the home to the workplace to friendships. The one person everybody calls when they need help, the one person who organizes everything, she is like the center of everybody's world. Mav: She takes care of everyone even before taking care of her own self. So that is how I would describe the high functioning person. Interesting. The go-to person who seems to be able to focus on what other people's needs are and helping them meet it most likely would be prioritizing their needs last. Yes, exactly. Sometimes they don't even know that they have needs. Mav: dear, wow. So what I'm imagining the highly functioning person would be would probably be, is it when they have really just burnt off or shut down, then they are now forced to confront their own needs, emotional needs in particular? Yes. So they get to a point where they're feeling completely overwhelmed. Mav: The burden on ...
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