Unexpressed expectations are silent contracts. You don't announce them, you don't negotiate them, and then you act shocked when people fail to meet them. That is where most heartache starts.

In this episode, I break down why expectations become emotional landmines in relationships, work, and life. Not because expectations are bad, but because hidden ones are unfair. If you want a certain standard, a certain effort level, a certain kind of support, you have to make it real. Spoken. Clear. Owned. Otherwise you're not communicating, you're hoping. And hope is not a strategy.

Here's the silver lining: the moment you start expressing expectations properly, you stop living in resentment. You get cleaner conversations, fewer blow ups, and more trust. You also learn something important fast. Some people will step up when you're clear. Some people won't. That information is gold because it helps you make better decisions instead of staying stuck in disappointment.

I also cover the difference between an expectation, a preference, and a boundary. Most people confuse them and pay for it. An expectation is what you're asking for. A boundary is what you will do if it doesn't happen. A preference is what you'd like, but you can live without. When you mix those up, you either become controlling or you become a doormat.

If you want more peace, better leadership, and stronger relationships, stop punishing people for standards you never stated. Say what you mean, early. Ask for what you want, directly. And if it matters, put a consequence on it. That's how you reduce heartache and build a life that runs on truth, not tension.