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Some stories arrive as a whisper and land like a bell. Carol joins us to share how she moved through the aftermath of sexual assault and years of domestic abuse—not with a single breakthrough, but with steady steps, messy courage, and tools that actually work. Her turning point wasn’t dramatic; it was a decision to try a mindset workshop where a coach listened without judgment and offered a path forward. From there, she learned to reframe painful memories, name patterns she once normalised, and create daily anchors that made life feel possible again.

We explore the homework that mattered—like burning a cruel letter to mark a boundary—and the skills that stuck, including a simple pattern interrupt that halted panic in its tracks: “Stop talking shit. What’s the truth?” Carol talks about timeline work that surfaced the hidden toll of control and gaslighting, and how gratitude doesn’t excuse harm but can change what an event means for your future. We trace her small wins: daily walks, mindful eating, and journaling that turned into published poetry. She even returned to the city where she was assaulted, this time supported, reclaiming ground one step at a time.

The conversation expands into service and self: launching FLARE (Life After Rape Exists) as a peer space for those not ready for therapy, and starting a baking venture and cooking group to reclaim a kitchen once used to shame her. Setbacks still happen—flashbacks, false starts, hard days—but Carol shows how compassion and repetition build strength. If you’re navigating trauma, PTSD, or recovery from abuse, you’ll leave with language, tools, and proof that a thriving life is built from small, honest choices.

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If you have been affected by any of the topics mentioned in this podcast and need professional help or advice, the helplines listed below are available -

UK Sexual & Domestic Abuse – Key Helplines & Support
Emergency (Immediate Danger)
•⁠ ⁠Call 999 (ask for the police)
•⁠ ⁠If unable to speak: call 999 and press 55 on mobile
National Support (England)
•⁠ ⁠National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247 (24/7)
•⁠ ⁠Men’s Advice Line: 0808 801 0327
•⁠ ⁠Rape Crisis England & Wales: 0808 802 9999
Regional Helplines
•⁠ ⁠Scotland – Domestic Abuse & Forced Marriage Helpline: 0800 027 1234
•⁠ ⁠Wales – Live Fear Free Helpline: 0808 80 10 800
•⁠ ⁠Northern Ireland – Domestic & Sexual Abuse Helpline: 0808 802 141

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