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Divorce Matters

Divorce Matters

By: Michael Alexander and Mark Fidelman
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Welcome to the Divorce Matters Podcast, where we give unfiltered, unadulterated guidance for how to survive family courts. We will give you no-nonsense, straight forward strategies for beating the system. We guarantee you won't hear this advice anywhere else. A reminder that we are not attorneys and this is not legal advice. However, we'll help you more than any attorney ever will. Parenting & Families Relationships
Episodes
  • One Mom's 12-Year Battle Against Lies, Corruption, and the Family Law 'Mafia'
    Nov 13 2025
    • An in-depth discussion of the complexities and frustrations involved in family court proceedings, personal experiences navigating the system, and advice for others.

    Key Topics Discussed:

    • Family Court Frustrations: Personal stories of more than a decade spent dealing with court processes, describing corruption among attorneys/judges, and how private agreements are often ignored by the system
    • Challenges with Stipulations and Enforcement: Discussion of failed attempts to finalize stipulations and why the courts sometimes resist enforcing private divorce agreements
    • Inequality and Corruption: Critique of the family court's lack of support for families, the persistence of systemic issues, and personal experiences with unaccountable officials.
    • "Reunification Therapy": Examination of so-called reunification therapy, explanation of its illegality under Family Code section 3026, and how courts continue to utilize it regardless
    • Advice Segment: Encouraging listeners to seek alternatives to prolonged court battles and to be cautious with court-appointed individuals (e.g., plan coordinators, "quack" therapists).
    • Accountability and Legal Boundaries: Thoughts on how judges often disregard constitutional rights and legal boundaries due to a lack of accountability
    • Notable Anecdote: Recap of a criminal case where a judge (Judge Ferguson) murdered his wife, illustrating concerns about judicial accountability

    Guest:

    • Christy Black, returning guest and experienced advocate navigating family court for over 12 years; shares valuable experiences and insights.

    Memorable Quotes:

    • "At the end of the day, you only need one lunatic—whether it's your former spouse or a crazy judge or a crazy opposing counsel…"
    • "Family Code 3026 says that reunification shall not be ordered in a child custody, visitation proceeding. Period."
    • "These judges do not understand…The Bill of Rights is the line in the sand that the government is not supposed to cross."

    Summary: This episode is an honest and sometimes hard-hitting look at the realities of family court, the persistence of systemic issues, and the importance of self-advocacy and education for those facing similar struggles.

    Want to help, donate to http://www.kidsmatter.charity

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    49 mins
  • Weaponized: When Domestic Allegations Destroy Families
    Oct 24 2025

    Show Notes: Divorce Matters Podcast - Military Spouse's Struggle with Family Court Episode Highlights:

    • Guest: Katie, a military spouse navigating a complex divorce and custody battle

    • Location: San Diego Family Court System

    • Key Themes: Military family legal challenges, domestic violence allegations, custody disputes

    Episode Overview: Katie shares her harrowing experience of:

    • Facing a no-contact order after an alleged domestic incident

    • Losing her job and housing

    • Being arrested on a traffic warrant

    • Fighting to maintain custody of her son

    Critical Moments:

    • Unlawful house search on military base

    • Domestic battery citation (later dismissed)

    • Restraining order filed against her

    • Arrest in Arizona during spring break

    • Ongoing legal battles in family court

    Podcast Host Insights:

    • Highlighted systemic issues in family court

    • Advised recording all interactions for protection

    • Discussed challenges of proving innocence without evidence

    Upcoming:

    • Katie's next court hearing on Monday

    • Preparing 200+ pages of evidence to support her case

    Listener Takeaways:

    • Importance of documentation in legal disputes

    • Challenges faced by military families in court systems

    • Resilience in face of legal obstacles

    Recommended Resources:

    • Legal AI tools (Claude, Grok)

    • Understanding court procedures

    • Seeking support networks

    Donate at
    Www.kidsmatter.charity

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    39 mins
  • One Attorney's Battle for Her Children as she Fights the Corrupt Family Court
    Oct 24 2025
    Mark Fidelman, and an anonymous guest (referred to as "Brenda") Key Highlights: Guest is an attorney and business owner in San Diego Divorced since 2016 with three children (19, 17, and 15) Experienced significant challenges with the family court system Major Topics: Child Welfare Services (CWS) Ineffective and toxic handling of child protection cases Multiple reports of child abuse were largely ignored Divorce and Custody Challenges Initially had 70% physical custody Ex-husband had history of corporal punishment and verbal abuse Mediator recommended reducing custody to 50/50 without substantial justification Legal Strategies Filed a contempt action against ex-husband for hitting children Creative custody arrangement to maintain primary care Used MyTalkingParents for communication documentation Key Advice: Avoid family court if possible Ensure detailed divorce agreements with specific clauses Focus on children's well-being and safety Unconditional love from one parent can overcome challenging family dynamics Action Items: Include no corporal punishment clause in divorce agreements Be specific about extracurricular activity cost-sharing Document all communications Prioritize children's emotional and physical safety Systemic Criticisms: Family court system is potentially corrupt Judges often rubber-stamp mediator recommendations Judicial immunity protects problematic judicial behavior Conclusion: The guest emphasized that "winning in life" matters more than winning in court, and maintaining unconditional love for children is paramount. Donate at Http://www.kidsmatter.charity
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    48 mins
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