Discovering the Best Version of Yourself After Divorce with Bee Quammie

Ready to meet the woman you become after divorce? This episode will change how you see yourself and your future.

Bee Quammie, multimedia storyteller and author of The Book of Possibilities, joins host Sade Curry to share raw truths about rebuilding after divorce.

Bee is a Jamaican-Canadian multimedia storyteller: a writer, podcast host, TV personality, and public speaker. She’s written for publications like The Globe and Mail, Men's Health, Chatelaine, Refinery29, Essence, and more. Bee is a guest host and commentator on several Canadian television and radio shows, like CTV's The Social and CBC’s The Next Chapter.

She’s also a highly sought-after public speaker with the National Speakers Bureau, offering keynotes across North America. She writes and speaks on topics like race and culture, parenting, mental health, and pop culture — and her debut book, an essay collection called The Book of Possibilities, was published by Penguin Canada in 2025. Bee lives in the Greater Toronto Area with her two daughters.

Bee breaks down the difference between being married, going through divorce, and thriving as a single woman - and why she loves the version of herself she is now most of all.

What You'll Discover:

• Why "know the version of you that you like best" changes everything about dating
• How to tell the difference between loneliness and being alone (they're not the same thing)
• The surprising way to reconnect with pleasure through your five senses
• Why nice guys aren't always the answer - and what to look for instead
• How to set boundaries that men actually respect
• The secret to celebrating small wins on your path to thriving

Bee shares her honest journey from losing herself in marriage to discovering self-love that creates armor against outside noise. She talks about solo trips to Curacao, learning to laugh at her own jokes, and why she approaches dating as fun rather than a job interview.

This conversation tackles the shame around divorce, the pressure women face to follow scripts that don't serve them, and why breaking those narratives leads to better relationships with yourself and others.

If you're ready to stop waiting for someone else to validate who you are and start loving the woman you're becoming, this episode is your wake-up call.

Connect with Bee Quammie:

• Website: beequammie.com
• Social Media: @beequammie (all platforms)
• Book: The Book of Possibilities (Penguin Canada, 2025)

Ready to create your own dating strategy that honors who you're becoming? Schedule your free dating consultation call with Sade and start building the love life you deserve - one that fits the incredible woman you are today.

234. Unshaming Divorce and Honoring Life with Kendell Lenice

About This Episode

What if divorce isn't a mark of failure, but a brave act of self-advocacy?

This week, I sit down with Kendell Lenice, certified life coach and author known as "The Remix Coach." Kendell shares her powerful story of being divorced twice, her healing journey, and how she found love again when she wasn't even looking for it.

If you've ever felt shame about divorce or wondered if you'll find love again, this conversation will shift your perspective completely.

What You'll Learn

Divorce Doesn't Define You

• Why walking away from a marriage can be the bravest thing you do
• How to stop letting shame keep you in bondage
• The difference between staying married for love vs. staying for reputation

The Real Work of Healing

• Kendell's HEAL acronym: Honor Everything About Life
• Why you must examine your childhood patterns and trauma
• How to forgive yourself for past relationship choices

Finding Love After Heartbreak

• Why Kendell wasn't looking for love when she met her current partner
• The importance of vetting (yes, we dive deep into this!)
• How to stay open to love without being desperate for it

Red Flags and Green Flags

• Recognizing gaslighting and emotional manipulation
• Why your discernment matters more than giving endless grace
• The difference between healthy and toxic relationship patterns

Key Takeaways

1. Divorce can be mature, not shameful. Sometimes two good people just can't figure it out together.
   
   
2. Do the healing work first. Know who you are so someone else can't persuade you to be someone different.
   
   
3. Vet, vet, vet. Don't give away all your requirements upfront - let people show you who they are.
   
   
4. You are enough with or without a relationship. A partner should be an addition to who you already are, not your completion.

About Kendell Lenice

Kendéll Lenice, affectionately known as “The Remix Coach,” is a Certified Life Coach, national speaker, author, and host with over 20 years of experience helping people transform their lives and relationships. Through her podcasts, powerful talks, and coaching, she mixes wisdom, humor, and heart to inspire growth and healing. A colon cancer survivor and advocate, Kendéll empowers others to turn life’s challenges into powerful comebacks. Whether on stage, on screen, or behind the mic, she brings real talk, real change, and a reminder that it’s never too late to remix your life. She's living proof that life’s remix can be better than the original.

Kendéll Lenice, known as “The Remix Coach,” is a Certified Life Coach, speaker, author/writer, and media host with over two decades of experience helping people heal, grow, and remix their lives with purpose and flair. Whether she’s dropping gems on her podcasts, lighting up a stage, or coaching one-on-one, Kendéll blends wisdom, warmth, and a touch of humor to spark transformation. A proud colon cancer survivor and advocate, she proves daily that reinvention is always possible. Kendéll empowers others to turn life’s challenges into powerful comebacks. It's all about the remix!

Kendell is the author of multiple books including:

• "Your Unhealed Is Showing" - About healing purposefully and aging fearlessly
• "God Thinks I'm Special" - A children's book teaching kids their worth

Connect with Kendell

https://www.instagram.com/kendelllenice
https://kendelllenice.com/
https://youtube.com/

In this heart-to-heart conversation, I sat down with Heidi Freeman, successful attorney and author of "Love Lessons: 104 Dates and the Stories That Led Me to True Love." Heidi shares how turning 40 sparked her quest to understand what true love looks like by interviewing couples in strong relationships. What began as research turned into 11 core themes about authentic connection. With refreshing honesty, Heidi opens up about her 104-date journey, complete with hilarious mishaps, surprising insights, and the beautiful moment when she finally met her husband Will.

This episode cuts through the anxiety about modern dating to remind us that love requires resilience - and is worth 100 disappointing dates.

Key Moments

• Turning 40: Heidi realized she didn't know what true love looked like or felt like and decided to interview couples in solid partnerships
• Research: Heidi interviewed 50+ couples separately to find themes
• Mutual reciprocity: The most impactful insight was how partners take turns supporting each other through life's waves
• The myth of love at first sight: No one Heidi interviewed mentioned this - instead they talked about initial connection and safety
• D04 dates: Heidi shares both hilarious dating disasters and meaningful lessons learned
• Finding Will: How she met her husband through yoga connections and recognized the difference in how she felt
• Dating in the wild vs. apps: The benefits of meeting people through activities vs. online

Quotes

"I had to put on my big girl underwear and go back out there." - Heidi on persevering after dating disappointments

"I think it's not us. This is the way we are socialized...to value relationships, which is awesome. But then we're also socialized to put our own personal value in relationships, and that's what's harmful." - Sade Curry

"Mutual reciprocity and safety... even if you didn't have all the other sprinkles in a relationship, but you had these, you could make a good relationship out of that." - Sade Curry

"What if the next date is him? I would constantly say that to myself when I didn't want to go." - Heidi on staying hopeful

About Heidi:

Heidi Freeman (formerly Goldstein, born Eisman) is a successful attorney and partner at a large law firm specializing in environmental law and social and environmental governance-based counseling. She's written her first book, "Love Lessons," chronicling her dating journey and the relationship insights she gained. Heidi has previously written for Bloomberg Law, 360, and other professional publications. She lives in Cleveland Heights, Ohio with her husband Will and their blended family - two children of her own and two bonus children with Will.

Connect With Heidi

• https://heidifriedman.com
• http://www.instagram.com/lovelessons104
• Podcast: "I Love You More" with her 22-year-old son Zach (available on Spotify and Apple Podcasts)
• Book: "Love Lessons: 104 Dates and the Stories That Led Me to True Love" (Available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Goodreads)

Ready to Transform Your Dating Life?

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