In this final Dad Diaries episode of Season 3, Blue is winding down for Christmas and gearing up for a precious visit from his eldest son, who has lived in the UK for almost eight years. From his little trailer studio in the Canadian winter, he talks about why he is pausing the podcast, where his energy is going next, and how he keeps showing up as a dad from afar.

In this episode, Blue talks about:

Why this is the last episode of Season 3 and what the winter break will look like

A quick recap of the relocation case, joint guardianship, and life as a long distance dad

How he stays plugged into school life from overseas by being on email lists, contacting teachers, and watching the calendar

The Christmas jumper story and using small, thoughtful gestures to stay present in a child’s day to day life

Creating physical photo albums after visits so kids have something tangible to hold onto

Letting go, trusting the universe, and teaching kids to make good choices when you cannot be there in person

Using outdoor adventure and risk management as a framework for leadership in parenting

Growing his platform through Instagram reels, TikTok, and YouTube Shorts, and why he is focusing there for now

Navigating spicy comment sections, old friction with his ex, and choosing to lead with love instead of resentment

The joy and chaos of blending families, planning the airport hotel adventure, and looking ahead to Christmas on the slopes

A message for dads and parents who are not with their kids this Christmas and ideas for making connection anyway

If you are a dad facing separation, distance, or complicated co parenting, Blue’s hope is that this episode reminds you that you can still have a deep, loving relationship with your child, even when you are not there as much as you want. Lead with love, keep showing up in whatever ways you can, and create your own version of “Christmas day” when it works for you.

Connect with Blue

Instagram: @dadwithoutborders

TikTok: @dadwithoutborders

YouTube Shorts: Dad Without Borders

Website and writing: bluenetherclift.com

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In this episode, I unpack what it is like to be labelled a dad who “lost custody” after years of giving everything to my son. I walk through my work story, how my flexible career and time with him were framed as a weakness in court, and why that judgement left such a deep feeling of shame. From there, I talk about the choice to stop feeding resentment, to step away from online drama, and to focus instead on love, presence and long term connection.

I also share one of the biggest turning points in my journey, taking my son and my partner off grid while we waited for an appeal decision, and how those days by the lake became a template for how I cope with stress as a long distance dad. I close with some simple ideas for staying connected across distance, from consistent FaceTime rituals to making small, memorable adventures when you are finally together.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

What it actually feels like to “lose custody” and carry that label

How my work history and time with my son were used against me in court

Why holding on to bitterness gives your power away to the system

The story of going off grid with my son while we waited for an appeal decision

How nature, adventure and simple rituals help me stay grounded as a long distance dad

Practical ideas for staying close through FaceTime, shared interests and small adventures

A reminder to get support, keep showing up and let your love for your child lead the way

In this episode, I open up about a period when I lost my final appeal, my son had already relocated overseas, my partner was heavily pregnant, and I simply could not travel. With the help of attachment focussed social worker Catherine Williams, I built a plan to stay in my son’s daily life through predictable calls, creative rituals, and a neutral story that explained the court decisions without blame. I share the moment we finally reunited in the UK and how that first hug confirmed that all the effort to stay connected had been worth it.

I also push back on the idea that backing off contact somehow makes things easier for a child who misses you. Drawing on attachment principles and my own experience, I talk about why consistency beats perfection, how kids experience long silences, and why it is kinder to keep showing up even when goodbyes are hard. To close, I encourage dads to get both solid legal advice and seasoned counselling support early, so they can protect their parenting time while staying grounded and connected for their kids.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

A tribute to Judson, a former guest and ski guide who died suddenly of a heart attack

The “fitness paradox” and why very active middle aged dads still need to think about heart health

How an eight month separation unfolded after losing a final appeal on relocation

The daily Skype routine that helped my son feel I was still part of his everyday life

How I used a child friendly “life story” book to explain court decisions without blaming his mum

The emotional first reunion in the UK and what it revealed about secure attachment

Why pulling back to “make it easier” usually hurts kids more than regular goodbyes

Simple, realistic ways to stay present from afar, even with time zones and busy schedules

The importance of outdoor, screen free time together when you do reunite

In this episode, I open up about the emotional and practical realities of long-distance fatherhood and co-parenting after separation. I share lessons from Halloween traditions and holiday rituals, the challenges of discipline with a sensitive three-year-old, and how those lessons carry over into parenting my twelve-year-old who lives overseas. With insight from a top UK family lawyer on the Hague Convention and advice from psychologists Sean Larsen and Todd Kettner, I explore how to focus on your child’s wellbeing, manage emotions, and nurture connection across borders.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Understanding the Hague Convention and international parenting rights

How to keep your child at the centre during legal or co-parenting conflict

Simple rituals and creative ways to stay connected through holidays

Balancing firmness and sensitivity in discipline near and far

The value of quiet presence and emotional steadiness with older kids

In this episode, I open up about the emotional and practical realities of long-distance fatherhood and how to nurture a balanced bond between parents after separation. With insights from counsellor Catherine Williams and research on the Kelly & Johnston Continuum, I discuss healthy attachment, the difference between affinity and alienation, and why a child’s best outcome depends on both parents being supported.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Why self-care and emotional health come first for separated parents

How to stay connected through letters, FaceTime, and shared rituals

The Kelly & Johnston Continuum explained — from balance to alienation

Language that fosters security instead of division

Simple activities that reconnect families across distance

Professional insight and practical tools for parents navigating separation

In this episode, I open up about the emotional and practical work of supporting a young child through high anxiety — and what it means to stay grounded as a parent when your child’s fear takes over. With thanks and insight from psychologist Sean Larsen, hypnotherapist Catherine Williams, and family counsellor Erica Spink, I explore how “bottom-up” fear works in a child’s nervous system, why storytelling can be more powerful than reassurance, and how gentle exposure and family balance helped our son heal.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Simple family moments that restore connection — nature play, empathy, and advocacy

How a mild infection triggered deep anxiety in a six-year-old

Why logic doesn’t calm body-based fear

How storytelling can re-train a child’s brain

The emotional load of co-regulation and the need for parental balance

The small daily shifts that made a difference: softer mornings, more play, less pressure

This episode explores the emotional terrain of letting go and showing up. I reflect on the early days of co-parenting — the handovers, the tension, and the quiet rituals that helped my son feel safe — and how those lessons continue to shape the way I parent today.

From the big goodbyes of long-distance fatherhood to the daily drop-offs at daycare, I’ve learned that transitions are where connection is built — if we stay present and consistent through them.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The power of predictable handovers and simple goodbye rituals

Why short, steady transitions work best for kids

Lessons from co-parenting through conflict with compassion

How long-distance parenting shaped my approach to daily connection

A reminder that presence matters more than perfection

In this Dad Diary, I reflect on the dual challenges of fatherhood across distance and at home. Saying goodbye to my eldest son after a summer visit — complete with a broken arm and his first solo flight — pushed me to hold space for his sadness while staying steady. At the same time, helping my three-year-old navigate daycare transitions has reminded me that even small daily goodbyes ask for presence, consistency, and soft strength.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• The emotional goodbye of my son’s first solo flight back to the UK
• Rituals our family uses to anchor connection through goodbyes
• How daycare transitions mirror the bigger separations
• Reflections on Jason Wilson’s idea of being “the man the moment demands”