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DON’T BE A D!CK the podcast

DON’T BE A D!CK the podcast

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🎙️ DON’T BE A D!CK

Hosted by Lindsay Matthes & Ivie Van Lent

Welcome to DON’T BE A D!CK, the podcast that proves kindness isn’t just soft—it's strategic, powerful, and absolutely necessary in today’s homes, workplaces, and communities.

Hosted by Lindsay Matthes, award-winning HR strategist, international speaker, TEDx powerhouse, and author of Don’t Be A D!ck: HR Advice for a Kinder, Healthier, More Successful Workplace, and her daughter Ivie Van Lent, a fierce queer leftist, community organizer, activist, and cat-mom extraordinaire—this show brings real talk, real stories, and real solutions to the messy places where humanity and leadership collide.

Every episode, Lindsay and Ivie pull back the curtain on what it actually means to lead and live with kindness—beyond the buzzwords and corporate posters. From toxic workplace behaviors to outdated leadership habits, from bias to burnout, from unkind choices to unconscious “Dick moves,” they tackle it all through two generations, two worldviews, and one shared mission:

👉 Make the world less d!cky, one conversation at a time.

Expect:
✨ candid mother-daughter banter
✨ spicy takes on work, culture, activism, and humanity
✨ stories from HR trenches and grassroots organizing
✨ the courage to call out the hard stuff
✨ practical tools to lead, parent, love, manage, and show up better
✨ a safe, inclusive space where authenticity isn’t optional—it’s the whole point

Whether you’re an HR pro, a leader, an activist, a parent, or just a human trying to stop being (or dealing with) a d!ck… this podcast gives you the insight, laughs, and kick-in-the-pants inspiration to do better.

Because kindness isn’t weakness.
Kindness is change in action.
And it starts with us.

Hit play, grow some courage, and let’s build a kinder world—together. 🙌

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Episodes
  • Episode 4: Navigating the Holidays - Hard Conversations with Family

    Episode 4: Navigating the Holidays - Hard Conversations with Family
    Dec 24 2025

    In this episode of Don’t be a Dick! Ivie and Lindsay navigate how to deal with family pressures and difficult relationships during the holidays. They discuss setting boundaries, meeting people where they are at, and when it is appropriate to just leave.

    Family can be difficult, but you are not the only one struggling. Tune in to get some good tips on how to respond to inappropriate comments, how to decide if someone is worth your time, and how to give yourself grace when you get triggered.

    Happy Holidays!

    Buy Lindsay’s book and listen to her TedX talk at: kinder-hr.com

    🔗 CONNECT WITH US

    Follow Lindsay at

    LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/lindsaykmattes

    Facebook: @lindsay.mattes

    Tiktok: @hrmama6

    Instagram: @mamamattes

    Follow Ivie at Tiktok: @dandelionwaiting
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    53 mins
  • 🎙️Episode 3 - Navigating the Holidays - Capitalism and Consumption | Hosted by Lindsay Mattes & Ivie Van Lent

    🎙️Episode 3 - Navigating the Holidays - Capitalism and Consumption | Hosted by Lindsay Mattes & Ivie Van Lent
    Dec 11 2025

    On this episode of Don’t be a Dick! Ivie and Lindsay discuss navigating the holidays without falling prey to overconsumption. What are the traditions that we value? Where does holiday joy come from? And why is it important that we limit our spending this time of year?

    Join them to fall into the magic of the winter holidays, and the nostalgia that goes along with it-- from circling the best Black Friday deals in newspapers, to feeding glitter to Santa’s reindeer.

    📘 Get Lindsay’s book Don’t Be a D!ck and listen to her TedX talk at: kinder-hr.com

    🔗 CONNECT WITH US

    Follow Lindsay at

    LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/lindsaykmattes

    Facebook: @lindsay.mattes

    Tiktok: @hrmama6

    Instagram: @mamamattes

    Follow Ivie at Tiktok: @dandelionwaiting
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    37 mins
  • 🎙️ Episode 2 — Why “Don’t Be a D!ck” (And What It Really Means)

    🎙️ Episode 2 — Why “Don’t Be a D!ck” (And What It Really Means)
    Nov 28 2025

    Hosted by Lindsay Mattes & Ivie Van Lent

    In this lively and unfiltered episode, Lindsay Mattes—author, speaker, and founder of Pioneer HR—and her eldest daughter, Ivie Van Lent—queer activist, leftist, and certified witchy weirdo—dig into the origin and meaning behind their bold podcast title: Don’t Be a D!ck.

    Lindsay shares the hilarious moment a harassment prevention training turned unforgettable when she blurted out the phrase that became the heartbeat of her book and now this podcast. The phrase stuck because it’s simple, honest, and instantly recognizable—we all know what being a “d!ck” looks like.

    Together, Lindsay and Ivie break down the acronym D.I.C.K.—Dismissive/Defensive, Insensitive/Insecure, Callous/Cruel, and Killjoy/Know-it-all—as a tool for recognizing harmful behavior (including our own). They discuss the three types of “d!cks”—intentional, accidental, and conscientious—and how understanding which one you’re being is the first step toward kinder communication.

    This episode explores language, accountability, generational differences, and even the reclaiming of taboo words. From personal stories to laugh-out-loud moments, Lindsay and Ivie show that self-awareness and kindness are powerful antidotes to “d!ck behavior.”

    ⭐ In This Episode:

    • Why “Don’t Be a D!ck” became the perfect title

    • How one training room moment shaped a whole movement

    • The D.I.C.K. acronym: a guide to understanding your own behavior

    • Intentional vs. accidental vs. conscientious d!cks

    • Taking accountability without shame

    • Reclaiming language and generational differences in “taboo” words

    • A preview of future themes like “nice vs. kind”

    A funny, honest, and refreshingly human conversation reminding us all: we’re going to mess up—but we can always choose to be kinder.

    📲 Follow Lindsay & Ivie on social for updates, behind-the-scenes content, and future episode drops

    Lindsay: LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/lindsaykmattes Facebook: @lindsay.mattes Tiktok: @hrmama6 Instagram: @mamamattes

    Ivie: Tiktok: @dandelionwaiting
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    29 mins
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