Hope everyone had a great labor day, clearly I did... I thought yesterday was Monday literally all day until about 11PM when I realized it was Tuesday and I hadn't dropped this episode... WHOOPS. Forgive me <3

No one fetishized Kaila Yu more than she fetishized herself. As a young girl, she dreamt of beauty. But none of the beautiful women on television looked like her. In the late '90s and early 2000s Asian women were often reduced to overtly sexual and submissive caricatures—Within that narrow framework, Kaila internalized a painful conclusion: The only way someone who looked like her could have value or be considered beautiful and desirable was to sexualize herself. We embark on a conversation about beauty, race and self love in this week’s episode. To learn more about Kaila you can visit her site here or buy her book here.

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What really happens when trust shatters? In this powerful episode of Crimes of the Heart, host Rory Uphold sits down with betrayal recovery coach, attorney, and TEDx speaker Lora Cheadle to unpack the messy truth about healing after infidelity, lies, and broken friendships. From discovering her husband’s 15-year secret double life to helping countless clients rebuild their identities, Lora shares the tools to move beyond grief and rage, reclaim your power, and decide whether to repair or release relationships. To learn more about Lora check out her website HERE.

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Imagine waking up with $10 million… and going to sleep with nothing. This week’s guest was married to the so-called Mormon Bernie Madoff, and she had no idea her husband was running a Ponzi scheme — until it all came crashing down. Andrea Merriman thought she had the perfect life: wealth, family, love. But when her husband’s secret Ponzi scheme exploded, she lost it all. This is the jaw-dropping true story of the ex-wife of the "Mormon Bernie Madoff" — how she learned the truth, raised four kids alone, rebuilt her world, and somehow… learned to love again. If you’ve ever wondered how someone survives the unthinkable, this episode is for you.

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Think you’re too smart to fall for a narcissist? Think again. This episode breaks down the red flags you miss on first dates, what your first fight really reveals, and how to dodge manipulators before it’s too late. Already stuck with one? We’ve got survival tactics for marriages, messy divorces, and co-parenting with toxic people. Fasten your seatbelt—this is your no-BS guide to spotting narcissists and protecting your peace. To learn more about Carla click HERE or on IG HERE or buy her book HERE.

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We’re halfway through 2025 — so let’s get honest: Are you living the life you actually want? Do you have the love you truly deserve? If not, today’s episode might just change everything.

I’m joined by Jacqueline Hurst, the UK’s top life coach and a global expert in mindset mastery. She’s helped thousands of people transform their beliefs, upgrade their standards, and create the love and life they thought were out of reach. And today? She’s coaching you. We’re diving deep into the limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in cycles — in dating, in self-worth, and in playing small. This is your mindset wake-up call. I’m obsessed with her. I think you will be too. Let’s lock in. To learn more about Jacqueline visit her website or her Instagram or buy her Int. Best Selling book HERE.

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Hot Girl Summer is upon us and today's guest is going to tell us how to make the most of our single summer months. Amanda Thomas is your favorite influencers favorite influencer (and jewelry designer) and she's here to give us the skinny on how to have the perfect flirty summer. To follow Amanda click HERE and to check out jewelry click Luv AJ. Personally, I love these huggies. We also talked about our love of Naked, Dry Shampoo, Glutathione and soooo much more.

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For OG listeners you might remember Kiersten Lyons' horror story from my episode with Monica Padman (which aired on March 21, 2023). Today she is back to discuss how she healed from that relationship and subsequently found the man of her dreams and the book that was based on her journey. That book is called CRUSHED and it's out today! (If you buy fro that link I can earn an affiliate commission!) To learn more about Kiersten you can follow her HERE or check out her website here.

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Alejandra is a no nonsense dating coach with a long wait list but today you can get her advice for free! She's on a mission to stop women from settling and to help people find the love that they desire and deserve. So, share this with a friend who needs to hear it. For more from Alejandra you can check out her classes here or follow her on on IG here.

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