Relationships aren't fragile. They need healthy stress to make them strong.

In this episode, Matt and Graham explore how the language of emotional regulation and safe spaces - imported from therapy rooms and HR departments - has reshaped what many now expect from their closest relationships. For many couples, modern love means no raised voices and gentle communication. Conflict and arguments are seen as a failure.

What gets lost in the push for comfort is any room for challenge; for the difficult-but-essential conversations that allow you to grow together.

Good relationships aren’t low-conflict; they’re high-repair. Connection grows from working through things, not avoiding it. Conflict isn’t the problem—how you handle it is.

The Psychology Today blogpost they discuss is available here.

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In this episode, Matt and Graham explore the limits of empathy in relationships. Can empathy ever be anything but positive?

Yes. In lots of ways. Drawing on the work of Canadian psychologist Paul Bloom, Matt and Graham talk about how empathy limit connection, make us like those who are more like us in various ways, and prioritise experience over truth.

Are they fully Against Empathy? Find out by listening....

You can buy Paul Bloom's book here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0062339338

Most of the initial enquiries we receive as couples therapists come from women. A lot of the men in those couples come into our consulting rooms full of doubt and fear.

And why wouldn't they, given roughly 80% of counsellors and therapists are women, and an industry culture of left-leaning safe spaces and lived experience empowerment? Men are often made to feel like inferior women in couples work - out of touch with their feelings; too practical; too focused on individual responsibility.

In this episode of Crazy In Love, Matt and Graham explore why men avoid couples therapy, and what we can do to show up more often, and save their relationships.

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