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Coffee No Cream Ep. 29 – Make It Make Sense (Part 1): Black Women vs Black Women At Work

Coffee No Cream Ep. 29 – Make It Make Sense (Part 1): Black Women vs Black Women At Work

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 Why do Black women struggle so deeply with each other in the workplace? In this first part of my Make It Make Sense series, I am joined by three incredible women: Dr. Kwanza Falaka-Gibson, Dr. Lydia Bullock, and Natasha Williams from the UK. Together, we unpack the painful, complicated, and often unspoken truth about Black women’s relationships with each other at work.We discuss:• competition, scarcity, and insecurity• internalized oppression and generational wounds• colorism and “prove you are Black enough” dynamics• jealousy, favoritism, and tokenism• why some Black women police each other• painful Coffee No Cream moments• how childhood wounds follow us into the workplace• the real reasons some Black women clash with other Black womenThis conversation is raw, emotional, eye-opening, and necessary.Part 2 will be available next week.If this episode resonates with you, please like, share, and subscribe.You can also join our private Facebook group created exclusively for Black women. It is a safe space where we continue conversations like this. The link is in the description.👉 Get Our Free Courses Database 👉 Join the Coffee No Cream Facebook Community Connect with Natasha WilliamsLinkedIn🔗 Take the Cost of Black Excellence survey Connect with Dr. Lydia Bullock on Instagram or LinkedInConnect with Dr. Kwanza FalakaGirlfriend Therapy IncGirlfriend Therapy PodcastGirlfriend Therapy IGGirlfriend Therapy StorefrontDr Dr Dr Podcast ⏰ Timestamps(00:00) Mashup Open: The Complaints, The Hurt, The Truth(01:12) Welcome to Coffee No Cream and Series Introduction(03:26) Meet Dr. Kwanza Falaka-Gipson(04:11) Meet Natasha Williams from the UK(04:58) Meet Dr. Lydia Bullock(05:32) First Question: Black Women About Black Women at Work(05:57) Dr. Bullock on Excitement, Competition, and Insecurity(07:09) Natasha on Scarcity, Power, and Being the Only One(08:37) Dr. Kwanza Falaka-Gipson on When It Is Beautiful and When It Is Not(09:42) Erin on Corporate Experiences and Coffee No Cream Moments(10:21) Dr. Kwanza Falaka-Gipson’s Story: The Bullying Accusation(18:23) Processing the Accusation: Jealousy, Projection, Immaturity(20:03) Why Some Black Women Do Not Trust Kindness at Work(22:47) Dr. Bullock: “I Am Going Through That Right Now”(24:13) Senior Black Women Seen as Unapproachable(25:00) Like, Share, and Subscribe, plus Facebook Group Info(26:46) Policing Each Other: Identity, Tone, and “How Black Are You”(29:08) Competition Versus Community in Black Women’s Work Dynamics(29:47) Slavery, Conditioning, and the “Only One Gets In” Mindset(31:16) Dr. Bullock’s Story: The Award and the Public Undercutting(34:12) Mean Girl Dynamics, Internal Work, and Jealousy’s Roots(38:53) Dr. Bullock: “I Used to Be Jealous and Here Is What I Learned”(40:41) Insecurity Versus Authentic Connection Among Black Women(41:51) Erin on Breaking Up With a Friend Over Meanness(43:41) The “You Talk Like a White Girl” Trigger(44:22) Natasha on Accent, Identity, and UK Workplace Projection(46:12) Dr. Kwanza Falaka-Gipson on Family Competition Versus Support(46:34) Natasha on Colorism, Family Messages, and Workplace Impact(49:18) Natasha’s Coffee No Cream Moment with the Cleaner(50:06) Natasha’s Second Story: Hiring a Black Woman Who Turned on Her(54:47) When It Becomes Personal: Standards Versus Familiarity(56:06) Erin on Accountability and Why It Gets So Ugly(57:31) Internal Wounds and Expecting Lower Standards From Each Other(58:49) Dr. Kwanza Falaka-Gipson: Mindset Versus Reality in Workplace Conflict(59:49) Natasha: Unhealed Wounds and DEI Misconceptions(01:01:38) Erin on Generational Trauma and Why Compliments Were Withheld(01:05:51) Dr. Bullock on House Versus Field Dynamics in Modern Workplaces(01:05:51) Episode Close: Why This Became a Two-Part Episode
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