Do your evenings feel like a second full-time job? Do you just know you need a routine, but don’t have time to create one? This episode is for you.

Marjie and Paige dive into the surprising power of creating small, collaborative routines, even when you feel like you don't have time. Drawing from a real-life example of a family struggling with a child's challenging behavior, they reveal how a simple shift in mindset and a few strategic actions can bring a sense of calm, cooperation, and genuine connection back to your family life.

In this episode, you will learn:

• A new mindset for busy parents: start seeing routines as a gift, not a burden.

• The power of "Special Time": Why prioritizing this intentional connection can be the lever that increases cooperation and capability in all other areas.

• The "Do Not Do" list: What to leave out of your routine to prevent overwhelm and maintain focus on what truly matters.

An organized evening isn't just about getting things done; it's about the feeling of peace you have when you put your head on the pillow at night.

💬Join the Conversation Your ideas and questions matter. We’d love to hear how routines helped your child (or yourself). Or if you struggle, let us know, we can work on it together.

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Marjie Longshore, Founder of Family Leadership Center

Paige Trevor, Parent Coach

Special thanks to editor Max Cotter, and team Marike Pienaar and Wendy Tracy. You make a valuable difference.

📋 Join Paige for her live Get Ready with Routines Workshop on August 27th

🎧 Listen to The Present of Your Presence for a refresher on Special Time

🏫 For grade specific tips, read the FLC blog on Back to School Routines

🙉Try PEP’s (Parent Encouragement Program) Free Intro: Why Don’t My Kids Listen to Me?

👓 Read Paige’s blog Routines: A Parenting Super Power

📖 The CircleIN podcast from Family Leadership Center is based on Adlerian philosophy, including the work of Dr. Alfred Adler. Adler's core needs were translated into The Four Crucial Cs by Amy Lew, Ph.D. and Betty Lou Bettner, Ph.D. The Cs are: Connect (belonging), Capable (movement, progress), Count (significance, mattering), Courage (encouragement).

• Ansbacher, H. L., & Ansbacher, R. R. 1956. The Individual Psychology of Alfred Adler, Basic Books. New York.

• Bettner, B.L. & Lew, A. 1989. Raising Kids Who Can. Connexions Press. MA. (available for sale at familyleadershipcenter.org)

• Dreikurs, R. & Soltz, V. 1964. Children: The Challenge. Hawthorn Books. New York.

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Join Paige and Marjie on the CircleIn podcast as they tackle a HUGE parenting pain point: sleep! In this fun and practical episode, they chat with working mom Alex, who's struggling with her 3-year-old's nightly visits. Forget those sticker charts! Discover how one simple shift, based on connecting, empowering, and believing in your child, can transform bedtime chaos into peaceful nights. Get ready to feel encouraged, courageous, and equipped with fresh ideas to bring harmony back to your home. Tune in – your sleep (and sanity!) will thank you!

💬Join the Conversation: Your ideas and questions matter. We’d love to hear how you solve Bed Time Blues. Or if you struggle, let us know, we can work on it together.

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Hosts

Marjie Longshore, Founder of Family Leadership Center

Paige Trevor, Parent Coach

Special thanks to editor Max Cotter, and team Marike Pienaar and Wendy Tracy. You make a valuable difference.

Resources

💤🥱 Check out American Academy of Pediatrics: Healthy Sleep Habits: How Many Hours Does Your Child Need?

💤Read Paige’s blog: Sleep: A Parenting Tool with 7 Tips to get more of it.

💓Like Alex, solve problems with your kids, read 6 Ways You Share Power in Your Home for even more tips.

🎧Listen to our Podcast 009 Family Harmony Starts with Problem Identification: Here’s How

🥞Enjoy Alex and Connor’s Pancake recipe!

📖 The CircleIN podcast from Family Leadership Center is based on Adlerian philosophy, including the work of Dr. Alfred Adler. Dr. Adler's core needs were translated into The Four Crucial Cs by Drs. Amy Lew and Betty Lou Bettner. The Cs are: Connect (belonging), Capable (movement, progress), Count (significance, mattering), and Courage (encouragement).

• Ansbacher, H. L., & Ansbacher, R. R. 1956. The Individual Psychology of Alfred Adler, Basic Books. New York.

• Bettner, B.L. & Lew, A. 1989. Raising Kids Who Can. Connexions Press. MA. (available for sale at familyleadershipcenter.org)

• Dreikurs, R. & Soltz, V. 1964. Children: The Challenge. Hawthorn Books. New York.

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Join Louisa and Marjie Longshore at their kitchen table as they talk about an essential aspect of encouragement: finding strengths. They explore a powerful, and surprisingly simple, strategy for turning interpersonal challenges into shared successes, fostering more connection, fun, and engagement. Louisa shares how she built a habit of strength-finding in others (and herself) and grew a stronger team at work as a result.

💬Join the Conversation: Your ideas and questions matter. We’d love to hear how you helped your child (or yourself) find your strengths. Or if you struggle, let us know, we can work on it together.

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Hosts

Marjie Longshore, Founder of Family Leadership Center

Louisa Longshore, Sailor, Camp Counselor, Student

Special thanks to our editor Max Cotter, and our team Marike Pienaar and Wendy Tracy. You make a valuable difference.

Resources

💪🏽To focus on strengths check out Episode 011 for a refresher on Noticing What’s Right

💓Read Paige’s Blog on Encouragement

🔬More science based tips on how amplifying strengths in parenting can help your kids.

📖 The CircleIN podcast from Family Leadership Center is based on Adlerian philosophy, including the work of Dr. Alfred Adler. Dr. Adler's core needs were translated into The Four Crucial Cs by Drs. Amy Lew and Betty Lou Bettner. The Cs are: Connect (belonging), Capable (movement, progress), Count (significance, mattering), Courage (encouragement).

• Ansbacher, H. L., & Ansbacher, R. R. 1956. The Individual Psychology of Alfred Adler, Basic Books. New York.

• Bettner, B.L. & Lew, A. 1989. Raising Kids Who Can. Connexions Press. MA. (available for sale at familyleadershipcenter.org)

• Dreikurs, R. & Soltz, V. 1964. Children: The Challenge. Hawthorn Books. New York.

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Tired of "I'm bored" driving you crazy? 😩 This episode reveals why allowing kids to solve their own boredom can be a secret superpower! Marjie and Paige explore how modern parenting often prevents this crucial experience, and why allowing discomfort can spark incredible creativity and independence. Discover how to create an environment that encourages self-entertainment, building resilience and intrinsic motivation that lasts a lifetime. Get ready to embrace the quiet, trust your child's capabilities, and witness the magic born from doing "nothing." ✨

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💬Join the Conversation: Your ideas and questions matter. We’d love to hear about boredom in your family. Also, we love hearing your boredom hacks!

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Hosts

Marjie Longshore, Founder of Family Leadership Center

Paige Trevor, Parent Coach

Special thanks to editor Max Cotter, Marike Pienaar, and Wendy Tracy

Resources

🧘🏽How to Be, lessons from a tween

💡From Bored to Brilliant Blog

🎧 Listen to Episode 005 for inspiration on connecting with your child through Special Time

🧹Chores can be boredom busters, done right. Learn how in this short blog, Splish Splash Chores

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Think your child is just being difficult? Think again. We reveal the surprising reasons behind power struggles and how you can shift the dynamic with empathy and clarity. We welcome a favorite guest, Certified Parent Educator, Patti Cancellier. This episode is your blueprint for fewer battles and more peace. Remember, peace begins at home.

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💬Join the Conversation: Your ideas and questions matter.

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Hosts

Marjie Longshore, Founder of Family Leadership Center

Paige Trevor, Parent Coach

Special thanks to editor Max Cotter, Marike Pienaar, and Wendy Tracy

Resources

🎥 Avoid Power Struggles and Worry About Yourself (hilarious 40 seconds of wisdom)

☕🏚️Paige has a short affirmation to exit the house in the morning without yelling!

📖Check out the book “Parenting Without Power Struggles” Patti mentioned.

🏋️Diminish Power Struggles by growing the C of Capable written by former FLC board member, Andy Hooper.

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Tired of the screen time struggle? Discover how to influence (not just control!) your kids' tech habits with Adlerian (aka encouraging) wisdom! Marjie and Paige share their thoughts on starting with an apology for your part in the struggle. They focus on a myriad of ways to connect, set screen-free zones 📵, and "add in" compelling real-world experiences like adventures & jobs. Let's raise confident, balanced kids together!

💬Join the Conversation: We’d love to hear how you how you feel about parenting today around these tricky topics. Or if you struggle, let us know, we can work on it together.

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• email us questions@familyleadershipcenter.org

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Hosts

Marjie Longshore, Founder of Family Leadership Center

Paige Trevor, Parent Coach

Special thanks to editor Max Cotter, Marike Pienaar, and Wendy Tracy

Resources

💻Paige’s blog about the The Anxious Generation

🫱🏼‍🫲🏽Blog on Screen Agreements

📵Get access to Paige’s Screens & Teens Guide (good for children of all ages!)

📝Read about the scientific benefits of chores!

🧺🧽 Ultimate Chore List

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Ever wonder how to help your child bounce back from challenges, genuinely care for others, and step up responsibly? We get it. The good news is, there's a powerful, yet simple, framework: The 4 Crucial Cs.* These essential building blocks are core needs, and actively nurturing them helps your child connect meaningfully and contribute positively. In today’s episode, you will learn how by focusing on the Cs, you'll empower your kids to develop self-discipline, and become confident problem-solvers. Ultimately, this approach fosters true resilience, enabling them to navigate life's ups and downs with grace and strength, ready to embrace responsibility and flourish.

Join the Conversation: We’d love to hear how you helped your child (or yourself) with the 4Cs. Or if you struggle to find ways to incorporate them, let us know, we love to brainstorm with you. Share your thoughts on Instagram or drop us an email at questions@familyleadershipcenter.org.

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⁉️Questions/Suggestions/Feedback: We’d love to hear from you! Your feedback helps us continue to bring helpful and insightful episodes every week.

• You’re welcome to email us your parenting questions and challenges, as well as feedback and suggestions for the podcast at questions@familyleadershipcenter.org

• Alternatively, send us a voice message through our Speakpipe or leave us an anonymous written message.

Hosts

Marjie Longshore, Founder of Family Leadership Center

Paige Trevor, Parent Coach

Special thanks to editor Max Cotter, Marike Pienaar, and Wendy Tracy

Resources

🎧 For more on Special Time or “Hang Time” listen to Episode 005

💪🏽To focus on strengths check out Episode 011 for a refresher on Noticing What’s Right

📒PocketGuide: A 4Cs Guide

🌮Read about Paige’s family ritual on Taco Night

📝For more about criticism and mattering read Paige’s Interview with Jenny Wallace about her book “Never Enough”

📖 The CircleIN podcast from Family Leadership Center is based on Adlerian philosophy, including the work of Dr. Alfred Adler. Dr. Adler's core needs were translated into The Four Crucial Cs by Drs. Amy Lew and Betty Lou Bettner. The Cs are: Connect (belonging), Capable (movement, progress), Count (significance, mattering), Courage (encouragement).

• Ansbacher, H. L., & Ansbacher, R. R. 1956. The Individual Psychology of Alfred Adler, Basic Books. New York.

• Bettner, B.L. & Lew, A. 1989. Raising Kids Who Can. Connexions Press. MA. (available for sale at familyleadershipcenter.org)

• Dreikurs, R. & Soltz, V. 1964. Children: The Challenge. Hawthorn Books. New York.

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What if the key to fewer power struggles wasn’t saying more, but saying less?

In this episode, we dive into the power of listening to understand with Certified Parent Educator Patti Cancellier. Through examples and inspiring stories, we explore how simply being present and truly hearing your child can defuse conflict, build connection, and even encourage your child to solve their own problems.

We’ll provide actionable guidance on how to practice focused listening in your family. And, you’ll discover how listening — without jumping to fix or advise — can be one of your most effective parenting strategies. Tune in to learn why sometimes, the best thing you can say… is nothing at all.

Join the Conversation: Your ideas and questions matter. We’d love to hear how you experienced listening in a new way. Share your thoughts on Instagram or drop us an email at questions@familyleadershipcenter.org.

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⁉️Questions/Suggestions/Feedback: We’d love to hear from you! Your feedback helps us continue to bring helpful and insightful episodes every week.

• You’re welcome to email us your parenting questions and challenges, as well as feedback and suggestions for the podcast at questions@familyleadershipcenter.org

• Alternatively, send us a voice message through our Speakpipe or leave us an anonymous written message.

We’re so excited to hear from you!

Marjie Longshore, Founder of Family Leadership Center

Paige Trevor, Parent Coach

Special thanks to editor Max Cotter, Marike Pienaar, and Wendy Tracy

📚PEP (Parent Encouragement Program) Classes and Webinars. To support parents and caregivers facing job insecurity and high stress for themselves and their families, PEP is offering its Live Monthly Webinars and On-Demand Videos FREE of charge this spring. Use code PEPFREE to access these resources.

🧠 Patti mentioned Dan Siegel’s brain explanation when you Flip Your Lid.

🔍Check out Episode 009 for a refresher on Problem Identification

🤫💕Paige’s Blog: Shhhhh, just Listen!

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