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Childless not by Choice

Childless not by Choice

By: Civilla M. Morgan
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 The Childless not by Choice Podcast is the story of an entire segment of society that goes largely ignored and misunderstood as we live and sometimes hide, in plain sight. I lived that story. I am living the story. Childless not by Choice is a podcast about the woman and man who wanted but could not have children. Of course, I invite everyone to listen. Because this is also a podcast that was created to bring awareness and conversation. It is a message for everyone: we are all walking the journey called life. But our paths are not the same. When we realize this, our minds will open up to the realization that we can treat each other with understanding, empathy, and grace, regardless of our journey, our paths.©2025 All rights reserved. Social Sciences
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  • Episode 178--Ectopic Pregnancy

    Episode 178--Ectopic Pregnancy
    Oct 5 2025
    Intro: Hello, and welcome to episode 178 of the Childless Not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless women and men worldwide, reminding us that we can live joyful, relevant, and fulfilled lives. And whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in! What is today's show about? Ectopic Pregnancies I have not forgotten that this podcast is about childlessness. Indeed, being childless not by choice. And we all know there are many reasons for childlessness, including medical issues such as endometriosis, fibroids, adenomyosis, miscarriage, PCOS, and so many other physical and physiological issues. Trauma, both physical and emotional, can be a cause. Being born without a uterus, which I have discussed on this podcast before. I will put a link to that interview in the show notes for this episode. And then just the unknown, also known as idiopathic infertility. I want to talk about ectopic pregnancy because I have never discussed it. But let's step back a little. Let's talk about the uterus. And I realize I am speaking to the choir here. I think most of you know what a uterus is and what it does. So let me say this in one or two sentences: The uterus is where a baby grows once the sperm fertilizes the egg. So if the egg, sperm, and fertilization end up anywhere outside of the uterus, the pregnancy will not thrive. In fact, the pregnancy will not go to term. And most times that ending up outside the uterus means the components I just mentioned: the sperm and egg, end up in the fallopian tubes. It's like driving down a highway, the fallopian tubes. You are supposed to end up at a destination, the uterus, but you get stuck on the highway instead. And sometimes getting stuck on the highway can cause irreparable damage. Meaning the possibility of no future natural pregnancies. Although we have two fallopian tubes, so if one is affected by an ectopic pregnancy, if the other one is healthy, a viable pregnancy is possible. The risk of an ectopic pregnancy is 1-2%. It sounds like a small percentage, but a percentage is a percentage, isn't it? It's small until it happens to you. And human physiology is not something that can be contested. In other words, there is no way to have a baby successfully grow outside of the womb, the uterus. And again, I know I don't need to say this, but I am not referring to other types of creating pregnancy, like the gift of a successful IVF. I am talking about how a pregnancy starts biologically, and the only way it can continue. So, ectopic pregnancies. 'An ectopic pregnancy occurs when a fertilized egg implants outside the uterus, typically in the fallopian tube.'--AI. Ectopic pregnancies are often caused by damaged fallopian tubes, which prevent a fertilized egg from reaching the uterus, leading it to implant and grow elsewhere. Risk factors for tubal damage and subsequent ectopic pregnancies include pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), endometriosis, Previous abdominal pelvic surgery Smoking. Other risk factors include conception while using an intrauterine device (IUD) After a tubal ligation (sterilization), Ongoing fertility treatments. Age: Being older than age 35 can also be a risk factor. I want to stop here and note that an ectopic pregnancy can be very dangerous. It is suggested that if you believe or have been diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy, you should see your physician immediately. Symptoms: Vaginal bleeding or spotting Abdominal pain, often one-sided Shoulder pain Nausea and vomiting Dizziness or fainting Now, the good news in all of this is that the chances of a successful pregnancy after an ectopic pregnancy are good, ranging from 65 to 85%, especially as time goes on. Meaning if you get pregnant again in 18 months, a successful pregnancy is 65% likely. In two years, it is 85% likely. I will say again, if we have arrived at the fact that we will not be having children. Maybe we have already had the hysterectomy. Maybe we have stopped IVF. We have just come to terms and decided to move on with our lives as childless not by choice people. That's what this podcast was created to address. But I also believe it is important to know more than our own journey. And that if we ever want to discuss more than our own journey, we are in the know. We can intelligently discuss as much or as little as we would like. Knowledge allows us to have the ball in our court. Maybe you have a family member or friend who is or has suffered from an ectopic pregnancy. Maybe you have, and then the pregnancy never happened for you. Either way, this is a slice of knowledge. And I hope it was helpful. As I close out this episode, I want to remind you that we are approaching our final episodes. It is a bittersweet feeling, as I have said before. But I know I am doing the right thing. I am feeling a shift and I need to go along ...
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  • Episode 177--August and Rest

    Episode 177--August and Rest
    Aug 24 2025

    Intro:

    Hello, and welcome to episode 177 of the Childless Not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men worldwide, reminding us that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice lives.

    Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!

    What is today's show about?

    August and Rest

    • Discuss World Childless Week Webinar with Yvonne John and me.--WCW will be 9/15-9/21/25

    • Sheridan Voysey's Friendship Lab.

    • My birthday getaway to the beach–the sunset I captured on still and on video.







    Special thank you to:

    Sunsets and new beginnings

    St. Pete Beach, Florida (August 2025)





    My contact information:

    Website: www.childlessnotbychoice.net and www.civillamorgan.com
    Facebook: booksbycivillamorgan
    Instagram: @joyandrelevance
    Pinterest: Civilla M. Morgan, MSM
    LinkedIn: Civilla Morgan, MSM




    Thank you for listening to this episode of the Childless Not by Choice podcast!

    Until next time! Bye!
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    26 mins
  • Episode 176--10 YEAR PODCASTIVERSARY!!! THE END!

    Episode 176--10 YEAR PODCASTIVERSARY!!! THE END!
    Jul 20 2025
    Intro: Hello, and welcome to episode 176 of the Childless Not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men worldwide, reminding us that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice lives. Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in! What is today's show about? Celebrating 10 Years of Podcasting!!! Body of episode: White paper—"A whitepaper is a persuasive, authoritative, in-depth report on a specific topic that presents a problem and provides a solution. Marketers create whitepapers to educate their audience about a particular issue or explain and promote a particular methodology. (May 11, 2023.) I wrote and read a white paper 10 years ago to explain the beginning of my platform. I explained why I started the podcast This will be the final year for the podcast. December 2025 will be the official final episode. I did ask my podcast producer to remain open to any future episodes after December, and he agreed. I started this podcast with the idea that I wanted to speak with all childless not by choice women around the world. Reaching all ethnicities, all races, all religions, because childless not by choice transcends all of those man-made attributes. For several years from the time I started the podcast, I had impostor syndrome. Imagine I am podcasting about a subject matter that affected me personally, and I still had imposter syndrome. It started to dissipate as I got fantastic guests and attended podcast conventions over the years. Have I reached everyone? The number of people globally that I set out to reach? Is that considered a comparison? Imposter syndrome became a comparison. Will I ever know if I reached everyone I was supposed to reach? I don't know. The people in the know in podcasting say it's not about the downloads. It's about the message. Am I clear? Is my sound good? Is my content good? Do I have repeat listeners? I know for a fact that I am solidly average in my downloads, so there's that. I have been thinking of putting down the podcast for well over a year. I told myself I could continue. But deep down, I know it is time. I know there are other podcasts in the space now. The voices may be different, but I believe that will be OK. I know there is a next, and I will not know what that next is until I put down this podcast. I will keep the podcast live for at least the next year, through December 2026. At that point, I will decide on next steps. So to be clear, I will have episodes for the rest of 2025. They will not be afterthought episodes. They will be well thought out and well researched, just like all of my previous episodes. I don't know if I will turn the podcast into a book. I hear some podcasters do that. It's too soon to say. I will say that I am at peace about my decision. Articles/links of interest: https://childlessnotbychoice.net/childless-not-choice-first-broadcast-via-radio-show/ https://childlessnotbychoice.net/my-one-year-podcast-anniversary-my-podcastiversary-2/ https://childlessnotbychoice.net/triggers-how-to-recognize-them-face-them-and-deal-with-them/ https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-141-downriver-nomad-my-conversation-with-rob-hutchings/ https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-160-praying-through-infertility-my-conversation-with-sheridan-voysey/ https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-90-my-interview-with-jody-day-founder-of-gateway-women/ https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-165-our-nine-year-podcastiversary/ https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-147-race-gender-in-equality-and-childlessness-my-conversation-with-yvonne-john/ https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-161-ivf-and-the-alabama-ruling/ https://childlessnotbychoice.net/let-me-catch-you-up/ Special thank you to: My listeners! My Facebook group admins My financial supporters My contact information: Website: www.childlessnotbychoice.net and www.civillamorgan.com Facebook: booksbycivillamorgan Instagram: @joyandrelevance Pinterest: Civilla M. Morgan, MSM LinkedIn: Civilla Morgan, MSM Thank you for listening to this episode of the Childless Not by Choice podcast! Until next time! Bye!
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