Sophie was already connected to Dragonfly from a Facebook group. She recognised him from a PSA and offered to help us investigate whether he was conning Belinda, the woman he met on the ferry.

But as the weeks go on, the signs start piling up.

Pick-me logic. Excusing harmful behaviour. Blaming women. And then… flirting with Dragonfly.

Then, finally, Jules hears from Belinda. And you won’t believe where she was when she received our warning about Dragonfly.

The lesson from this episode? Trust no one. Especially not someone who insists they’re “just being fair” to an abuser.

Episode 7

If you’re listening on audio only, trust us: this is the one you’ll want to watch on YouTube.

The video version is packed with 37 receipts: screenshots, photos, message threads, and evidence that turns this episode into an absolute forensic deep-dive into Dragonfly’s tangled web.

Kiki’s reading from a psychic turns from a funny aside into a genuinely jaw-dropping plot point. Meanwhile, Dragonfly resurfaces with his attempt at a redemption tour. There are new schemes, ‘jobs,’ and stories about his mysterious ‘friends.’ We begin comparing notes, screenshots and timelines that reveal just how deep the deception goes.

What we didn’t expect at this point was to receive new admissions from Dragonfly that reshaped the entire landscape of the story. By the time we piece it all together, the focus shifts to someone we’ve mentioned before. Belinda, the woman who he met on the ferry, may be at far more risk than we first realised. With new information at hand, we make a decision that ends in a phone call that NONE of us were expecting.

Wendy, part 2: Behind closed doors with a con.

You will love getting to know more about Wendy in part 2 of our forbidden interview with her. We hear more about Wendy’s perspective and motivations as we dive deeper into what family life was really like behind Dragonfly’s carefully crafted mask.

Wendy paints a clear picture of what it meant to share a home with someone who was at best, chronically lazy, and at worst, dangerously violent. She reflects on raising their two daughters while juggling the full domestic load, cooking, cleaning, caregiving, even building their house, all while Dragonfly spent most of his time glued to his phone. Community members also noticed his petulance, the arguments, the way he’d dramatically cut people off over nothing.

At the same time, Dragonfly was telling her elaborate stories about having Indigenous Quandamooka relatives on Minjerribbah, North Stradbroke Island. But like so many of his claims, the details never aligned. Over a span of eight years, Wendy never met a single one of these family members, despite multiple trips to the Island with Dragonfly. This is in stark contrast to Dragonfly’s stories he would tell other partners.

Wendy explains how the inconsistencies piled up and that by the time Jules reached out to explain that she’d discovered Dragonfly was a con, Wendy was not surprised in the slightest.

Wendy also reflects on the turning point before she even left him, choosing independence, following her own goals, and even building their home largely on her own while he “worked on the business.” Wendy’s spark of reclaiming her path began long before the relationship ended.

Looking back from a healthier, grounded, flourishing life, Wendy shares what it means to rebuild after coercive control and domestic violence. Her world has expanded in every direction, professionally, personally and creatively, in ways that weren’t possible under Dragonfly’s emotional weight. Her story is not just a record of what she survived, but a testament to what she reclaimed.

In this powerful two-part interview, we sit down with Wendy: Dragonfly’s ex-wife, a social worker, domestic violence advocate, and respected member of her community. For eight years, Wendy lived a life with Dragonfly that was built on lies. She was conned into a marriage founded entirely on false pretences, enduring years of emotional, psychological, and physical abuse at the hands of a man she believed she knew.

In Part One, Wendy shares how she first met Dragonfly and how he carefully constructed the persona that drew her in, and she walks us through the slow erosion of trust and safety that followed - and the moments that exposed the truth. We begin comparing our stories and uncovering the strikingly similar tactics he used to manipulate, isolate, and control each of us.

Wendy also bravely revisits one of the darkest points in her life: when Dragonfly’s violence left her hospitalised with 22 stitches after he viciously physically attacked her. It’s a confronting story of survival and truth-telling, but also of strength, integrity, and reclaiming one’s voice.

This episode sheds light on how coercive control operates behind closed doors, even in the lives of educated and capable women, and how abusers use triangulation, charm, and deceit to maintain their power.

A woman who knows Dragonfly offers to go undercover to find out whether he's deep into conning a new victim, or just making up some fictional dates with women. She's confident, curious, and eager to help. But the more she reports back, the murkier things get. By the end, just as things start to spiral, it's Jules' turn to get a message that meant much more than we could have realised.

After the chaotic removal of the Dragonfly from Jules’ premises, we begin reaching out to the others who are caught in his web of lies. Some want to talk. Others disappear. Then we try to warn the woman he’s with now, hoping she’ll see the truth. But some truths only make sense in hindsight.

Our warning is dismissed, and it feels like the story has nowhere left to go. But then it takes a turn we never saw coming.

Dragonfly is a master manipulator who weaves charm, deceit and confusion into his web. We explore the personality traits and tactics he uses to lure others in, examining what drives his behaviour and why his influence is so dangerously captivating.

I'd found my life's big romance. A charming farmer with a heart of gold. Then, almost overnight, the illusion shattered. What I thought was a fairy tale unravelled into something far more twisted, and took me back to someone who I thought would be staying in my past.

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