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You Say You Care. But Do You?

You Say You Care. But Do You?

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We use the word care all the time. We say we care about people. We tell people we care. But what does care actually mean?

In this episode, we explore why care is more than a feeling; it's a way of moving and being in relationships. We look at why someone can genuinely feel something for us without actually caring for us, how care is demonstrated through behavior rather than words, and why learning to care for ourselves changes what we're willing to accept from others.

In this episode, we explore:

  • Why care is more than a feeling and has to translate into behavior.
  • The difference between saying you care and actually creating the experience of being cared for.
  • How care often requires us to move beyond our own comfort and convenience.
  • Why staying present with another person's discomfort can be an act of care.
  • How self-protection can get in the way of caring well for others.
  • How our own experiences of care shape what we recognize and accept in relationships.
  • Why learning to care for yourself changes what you'll accept from others.

Episode Thoughts to Sit With

"Many of us don't actually know what caring is. Many of us don't actually have the experience of being cared for."

"Your words alone do not create a sense in my body of being cared for, especially if your words are saying one thing and your behavior is saying another."

"Care translates to behavior. Care translates to holding one in esteem as much as you hold yourself in esteem."

"People need to be able to feel what we say we feel about them. They need to know it, not because we say it, but because they can feel it."

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