How many times have you been told “You’re being too sensitive” or asked “Are you on your period?” How many times have you said these things? In this deeply honest and fiery episode, Reese and Dennis flip the script on classic gendered micro-aggressions. Drawing from their own experiences, emotional intelligence research, IFS Parts-Work, and an open-hearted desire to improve relationships, they unpack gender dynamics and how digging deep is the way to truly deepen connection.

If you're interested in the male loneliness epidemic, the embarrassment of boyfriends, conscious partnership, gender dynamics, emotional depth, and unlearning cultural patterns that keep us disconnected, this episode is for you. Whether you’re a man trying to “get it,” a woman tired of being dismissed, or someone navigating relational sensitivity from any gender, you’ll leave with practical tools and a deeper understanding of each other.

Welcome to Bow Down! a podcast by The Cohere Collective that discusses esoteric and empowered feminism every week. Be a part of the Collective and tune in to Bow Down! every week.

To work with Reese: https://www.thecoherecollective.com/coherent-design

To work with Dennis: http://heartstoybox.com

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References and Resources:

How to Piss off Women by The Pissoff Krew: https://www.amazon.com/How-Piss-Off-Women-Clueless/dp/B0F9SSDTYW

With empowered Coherence,

Dennis and Reese

Why do men mistake anger for power? And how can humor, play, and philosophy help us heal the wounds beneath the rage? Reese Brown and Dennis dive deep into Kyle Prue’s ”How to Piss Off Men,” exploring masculinity, anger, emotional literacy, and the playful path toward dismantling the patriarchy.

Welcome to Bow Down! a podcast by The Cohere Collective that discusses esoteric and empowered feminism every week.

Please learn more about Kyle Prue and support his work: https://kyleprue.com

Be a part of the Collective and tune in to Bow Down! every week.

To work with Reese: https://www.thecoherecollective.com/coherent-design

To work with Dennis: http://heartstoybox.com

Follow The Cohere Collective:

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References and Resources:

Read “How to Piss Off Men”: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/197036073-how-to-piss-off-men

Introduction to Emotional Bids from The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/blog/an-introduction-to-emotional-bids-and-trust/

More from The Gottman Institute on Bids: https://www.gottman.com/blog/want-to-improve-your-relationship-start-paying-more-attention-to-bids/

Brené Brown’s book, Rising Strong (where she discusses, “the story I’m telling myself…”): https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23317538-rising-strong

An essay on Brené Brown’s “The story I’m telling myself…”: https://www.livmindfully.com/new-blog/2025/6/4/the-story-im-telling-myself

Tik Tok discussing Dating App Hot Takes from Angelica on Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@an9ele/video/7561154002579197191

Follow the Creator: https://www.tiktok.com/@an9ele

Listen to Our Discussion of Free Will: https://youtu.be/Wyn5JSBUE9g

With empowered Coherence,

Dennis and Reese

Esther’s story isn’t the tale of sweet obedience your Sunday School teacher told you. It’s a complex, political, and feminist **narrative about women navigating power in a patriarchal system.

In this episode of Bow Down, Reese and Dennis unpack the Book of Esther through a feminist and deconstructionist lens, exploring Vashti’s revolutionary “no,” Esther’s strategic “yes,” and what both reveal about women, autonomy, and power in faith communities.

In this episode, we explore…

• Why Vashti’s defiance still scares the church
• How Esther’s silence and strategy challenge purity culture
• The “obedience” myth and Christian control narratives
• Why deconstructing scripture is an act of liberation

Welcome to Bow Down! a podcast by The Cohere Collective that discusses esoteric and empowered feminism every week. Subscribe for more feminist deconstruction conversations that challenge faith, reclaim spirituality, and center women’s voices!

Be a part of the Collective and tune in to Bow Down! every week.

To work with Reese: https://www.thecoherecollective.com/coherent-design

To work with Dennis: http://heartstoybox.com

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For more information, head to www.thecoherecollective.com

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References and Resources:

Read The Book of Esther: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Esther 1&version=NIV

Marion Ann Taylor, Professor of the Old Testament at Wycliff College and Author of “Esther” in “The Story of God Bible Commentary,” on Vashti: https://youtu.be/f6QGxfZ0SIo?si=ALqpnXcOARYgEsta

With empowered Coherence,

Dennis and Reese