There's nothing we want more in a relationship than accountability. How do we admit we were wrong and not take a huge hit to our ego? The more accountable we are for our actions, the more people will trust us. Saying we're sorry, then changing the inappropriate behavior so that it doesn't happen again goes a long way with our friends, coworkers and loved ones. We also discuss the other side of accountability which is being able to receive an apology and what to do if we feel like we're being taken advantage of.

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What is the difference between practicing idiot compassion versus wise compassion? Idiot compassion is when you're more focused on avoiding conflict and feeding your own ego. Wise compassion acts with courage and wisdom to address the root cause of another's suffering. Wise compassion gets to the heart of the issue instead of staying surface oriented and placating or enabling the other person. Idiot compassion can also be called "Yeslighting". In this episode, we dig into some of our own experiences of yeslighting, wise compassion and how it has changed the structure of our lives. We all need to learn how to bring more wisdom into our lives by practicing true compassion and accepting it when it's given.

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Sleigh bells are ringing, and Santa is coming! In this episode, Nikki and Tary talk about their families' Holiday traditions in the 1980's and how it compares to their current traditions with their growing families. Christmas can also be a hard time for families and kids that are dealing with addictions, depression or illness. Nikki shares her "Christmas Trauma" that formed the way she celebrates the holidays and made her appreciate the family that she and Mike have built.

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