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Biblical Eldership Has No Retirement Plan

Biblical Eldership Has No Retirement Plan

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 Leave a voice message for me here: https://www.speakpipe.com/timschmoyerI recently had the opportunity to speak about the “father, elder, ruler” progression at a men’s breakfast. Afterwards, with tears in his eyes, an older man told me this:“I used to be a leader in my career and in my home, but now that I’m retired and my kids are grown up, all I do is sit at home and care for the dog.”Something in my heart broke for this man. I didn’t say it to him, but something in me wanted to say, “No! This is a tragedy! You’ve spent your life acquiring wisdom and your city desperately needs it. They don’t even know how much they need it. That’s why they’re not asking for it. And you have grandkids who desperately need your attention instead of a random day care employee.”This is a great lie we’ve sold to Christian men: that the elder years are for withdrawal. For finally putting your feet up after decades of labor. For letting younger men take over while you fade into comfortable irrelevance.The tears in this man’s eyes told me he longed for something different. He wanted a sense of meaning, purpose, and fulfillment in his latter years, but didn’t have a vision for what it could look like or, even if he did, how to change societal norms to get there. Cities don’t have gates for elders anymore.As a 45-year-old father, I realize I’m speaking about something I have not yet experienced, but it seems to me that the grandfather years are essential to the health of a family and a city.Here’s the modern vision I see for the elder years vs. what I think the Bible portrays.Modern Vision: The Tragedy of Voluntary ExileWhen a man reaches his sixties or seventies, he’s finally arrived at something our culture has trained him to abandon: the culmination of decades spent acquiring wisdom, navigating crises, building things, leading people, and failing enough times to recognize patterns that younger men can’t see yet. He’s paid for his education in the currency of mistakes, setbacks, victories, and long nights wrestling with problems that don’t have easy answers.And then we tell him to go home and care for a dog while his aging body becomes a burden to the family.The man who talked to me after that men’s breakfast had actually said something profound, though he didn’t mean it this way: he had become a leader in his career and home. Past tense. As if leadership was something you graduated from, like college or braces. As if wisdom had an expiration date.But here’s what’s actually happening: his grandchildren are forming their understanding of manhood, marriage, work, and faith right now. His city is being shaped by whatever values its influential families have, without his influence. The next generation of men in his church are trying to navigate fatherhood and business and marriage without access to the forty years of pattern recognition sitting unused in his living room.His retirement isn’t rest. It’s desertion. And it’s not his fault. This is what society expects.Subscribe to join me and other Christian men in pursuing the noble task of eldership (1 Tim 3:1).Biblical Vision: The Elder Years Are Not for SpectatingScripture doesn’t describe a stage of life where faithful men become spectators. The progression isn’t father to retiree. It’s father in the home, elder in the city, ruler in the Kingdom. And that third stage doesn’t begin when you die. It begins when you’ve proven faithful with the first two.Remember Proverbs 31:23:“Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land.”This isn’t describing a young father. This is a man who has already led his household well, who now sits in the place of governance and wisdom. The gates were where disputes were settled, where guidance was sought, where the direction of the city was determined.These weren’t honorary positions for guys who wanted to feel important. These were men whose families and businesses proved they could govern well—and their cities needed that capacity.Or look at Titus 1, where Paul describes elder qualifications. These aren’t requirements for young men trying to prove themselves. They’re descriptions of men who have already managed their households well, whose children are believers, who have demonstrated self-control and wisdom over decades. The elder years aren’t the retirement party after fruitful governance — they’re the deployment of everything that fruitful governance built.When a man becomes a grandfather, he hasn’t graduated from leadership. He’s (hopefully) finally qualified for its highest form.In fact, the Jewish community holds the belief that if a word isn’t found in the Bible, then it’s a man-made word and isn’t a concept from God. Since the word nor the concept for “retirement” is found in scripture, many Torah-observing Jews have the idea that, until they die, they will always be generating value for their family and ...
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