Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

By: Emily & Johnny Spigelmire | Christian Marriage Recovery Coaches
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  • ***Top 1.5% Global Podcast*** Dear Betrayed, Are you in shock? Confused, devastated, hurt, angry and feeling like you are not enough? Do you feel like it must be your fault, like you should have somehow seen the signs? Are you grieving the death of the marriage you thought you had? Dear Betrayer, Have you been believing the lie that if people knew what was really in your heart and mind, they would turn their back on you? Have you been convinced that your wife and family would leave you and you would lose everything if/when you came clean? Beloved, do you both feel like your marriage is over? Well, you’re right. That marriage full of secrets and lies IS over. But now there is hope for an honest and transparent marriage - one full of trust, safety, connection, forgiveness, acceptance, and intimacy that you’ve never known before. Bold statement, right? You may be thinking, “No way!” That’s okay. We understand… Hi, we are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and we have been where you are... As a result of adultery fueled by pornography, the marriage vows we had exchanged as starry-eyed newlyweds and had worked so hard to keep were eventually shattered. We’ve been through hell and back. But we are here, together, to let you know that this devastation we experienced was actually a gift. Of course, we didn’t see it that way at first and you probably don’t either. But, through a commitment to recovery, our faith in God, and our hope for redemption, we set out on a journey of healing, and we can’t wait to share what we’ve learned with you. We now have a marriage that continually blows our minds, and we give God all the glory! So, if you’re ready to move from heartbreak and pain to hope and healing, grab your favorite beverage, get comfy, and join us on a journey of faith as we talk through difficult questions like; Is there hope for our marriage? Can I fix all the damage I’ve done? Can I ever trust again? Is true intimacy even possible? We will also do deep dives into the topics of: * Isolation * Guilt and Shame * Anger * Rejection * Addiction * Trauma * Body Image * Triggers * Communication * And more… Our story, like yours, is a messy one. But, with God’s help, it is possible to recover what was lost, stolen, or given away. We know this because God has turned the ashes of our lives into something beautiful and we believe he can do that for you too. You can connect with us at: support@beyondbrokenvows.com https://insider.beyondbrokenvows.com/ https://coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com/ We would love to be part of your journey to healing and wholeness!
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Episodes
  • 104 | Sifting Through the Rubble of a Marriage Destroyed by Porn-Fueled Infidelity

    104 | Sifting Through the Rubble of a Marriage Destroyed by Porn-Fueled Infidelity
    May 5 2025

    Being betrayed by hidden infidelity is like walking through a museum you helped build—room by room, the laughter, whispered promises, and the quiet certainty of a shared history. Every glance, every touch, every “I love you” hung like priceless art on walls you thought would stand forever.

    But somewhere deep in the walls, a gas leak has been growing—invisible, silent, deadly. You walked through those halls for years, never smelling the poison seeping into the foundation. You marveled at the exhibits of your life, never knowing they were rigged to blow.

    And then one day, suddenly everything explodes. No warning. Just fire and shrapnel tearing through everything you thought was sacred leaving in its wake a heap of broken beams and shattered glass. You’re on your knees in the wreckage, bleeding, choking on smoke and the sickening realization: None of it was safe.

    Now you dig. You start sifting through the ash and rubble, trying to salvage anything of value from your life you thought you had. A photo frame. A charred love letter. A shard of truth. And the worst part is, as you search, you don’t even know if what you’re holding was ever real—or just part of a beautifully constructed lie.

    Some of you are still standing in the smoke. Some are staring at blueprints, terrified to build again. Wherever you are—you’re not alone. Join us as we dive deeper into what it means to sift through the rubble of sexual betrayal.

    We pray this blesses you,

    Johnny and Emily

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe

    RESOURCES:

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

    Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

    (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)

    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 79. Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery

    Episode 87. Can’t We Just Get Back to Normal? Shortest Path to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal

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    ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
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    30 mins
  • 103 | 9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal for Him and Her

    103 | 9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal for Him and Her
    Apr 28 2025

    The discovery of sexual betrayal in your marriage can feel like a punch in the gut, leaving you reeling and unsure of what to do next.

    As a betrayed wife, you are experiencing trauma. As a husband who has been found unfaithful, you are probably scared and trying to fix what you’ve broken. Neither one of you are sure what the future will look like.

    But if you are listening to our podcast, you’re taking a brave step in the right direction. Our e-book is here to help you navigate this emotional roller-coaster as you set out on your healing and recovery journey.

    Whether you're the one who was betrayed or the one who did the betraying, we've got you covered with practical tips and guidance to help you rebuild trust, foster open communication, and grow as individuals and as a couple.

    We pray this blesses you,

    Johnny and Emily

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe

    RESOURCES:

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

    Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

    (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)

    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 5. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal

    Episode 59. Is It Over? Take These 5 Steps to Save Your Marriage After Adultery

    NEXT STEPS:

    ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!

    ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast.

    ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
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    26 mins
  • 102 | When ‘I Love You’ Has Lost Its Meaning: Try This Instead After Betrayal

    102 | When ‘I Love You’ Has Lost Its Meaning: Try This Instead After Betrayal
    Apr 21 2025

    In this raw and emotional episode, we dive into the painful reality of how the phrase “I love you” can feel hollow and even triggering after sexual betrayal in marriage.

    When those same words were whispered to someone outside the covenant, they lose their sacred weight—leaving the betrayed spouse questioning their truth. We explore the agony of speaking (or hearing) “I love you” when trust has been shattered, and why those words may no longer feel safe.

    But there is hope. Healing is absolutely possible through God’s redemptive power and the hard, daily work of recovery. We discuss how couples can rebuild trust, not with empty words, but with actions that prove commitment over time.

    And we reveal a new approach we’re testing: replacing “I love you” with “I choose you”—a deliberate declaration of fidelity, even when feelings are messy.

    You’re not alone in this struggle. If “I love you” stings right now, it’s okay. Healing starts with honesty, humility, and a willingness to rebuild—one faithful choice at a time.

    We pray this blesses you,

    Johnny and Emily

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe

    RESOURCES:

    Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

    (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)

    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 64. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series)

    Episode 78. Forgiving the “Other Woman” - A Path to Peace After Sexual Betrayal Trauma

    NEXT STEPS:

    ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!

    ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast.

    ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
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    32 mins

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