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Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

By: Emily & Johnny Spigelmire | Christian Marriage Recovery Coaches
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Dear Betrayed,


Are you in shock? Confused, devastated, hurt, angry and feeling like you are not enough? Do you feel like it must be your fault, like you should have somehow seen the signs? Are you grieving the death of the marriage you thought you had?


Dear Betrayer,


Have you been believing the lie that if people knew what was really in your heart and mind, they would turn their back on you? Have you been convinced that your wife and family would leave you and you would lose everything if/when you came clean?


Beloved, do you both feel like your marriage is over?

Well, you’re right. That marriage full of secrets and lies IS over. But now there is hope for an honest and transparent marriage - one full of trust, safety, connection, forgiveness, acceptance, and intimacy that you’ve never known before. Bold statement, right? You may be thinking, “No way!” That’s okay. We understand…


Hi, we are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and we have been where you are...

As a result of adultery fueled by pornography, the marriage vows we had exchanged as starry-eyed newlyweds and had worked so hard to keep were eventually shattered. We’ve been through hell and back. But we are here, together, to let you know that this devastation we experienced was actually a gift.


Of course, we didn’t see it that way at first and you probably don’t either. But, through a commitment to recovery, our faith in God, and our hope for redemption, we set out on a journey of healing, and we can’t wait to share what we’ve learned with you. We now have a marriage that continually blows our minds, and we give God all the glory!


So, if you’re ready to move from heartbreak and pain to hope and healing, grab your favorite beverage, get comfy, and join us on a journey of faith as we talk through difficult questions like;


Is there hope for our marriage?
Can I fix all the damage I’ve done?
Can I ever trust again?
Is true intimacy even possible?


We will also do deep dives into the topics of:
* Isolation
* Guilt and Shame
* Anger
* Rejection
* Addiction
* Trauma
* Body Image
* Triggers
* Communication
* And more…


Our story, like yours, is a messy one. But, with God’s help, it is possible to recover what was lost, stolen, or given away. We know this because God has turned the ashes of our lives into something beautiful and we believe he can do that for you too.


You can connect with us at:
support@beyondbrokenvows.com
https://insider.beyondbrokenvows.com/
https://coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com/


We would love to be part of your journey to healing and wholeness!Copyright 2025 All rights reserved. Christianity Hygiene & Healthy Living Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Social Sciences Spirituality
Episodes
  • 143 | After Disclosure: He Feels Better, She Feels Worse

    143 | After Disclosure: He Feels Better, She Feels Worse
    Feb 2 2026

    Today, we’re diving into one of the rawest pains a marriage can face: infidelity.

    Specifically, that pivotal moment when the unfaithful spouse – often the husband – finally comes clean. He unloads decades of secrets, and suddenly his prison of guilt and shame cracks open. Freedom hits him like a wave of hope.

    But for the wife? Those same words shatter her world. She’s left carrying the weight he shed, and now she’s trapped in her own prison of grief, betrayal, and isolation. One heart soars; the other plummets.

    So what now? How do you navigate this as a couple committed to Christ?

    Join us for this raw and candid conversation about our experience with this unfair paradox.

    We pray this blesses you,

    Johnny and Emily

    💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    RESOURCES:

    Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

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    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 124. From Hurt to Hope Through Rigorous Honesty

    Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal

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    38 mins
  • 142 | Level Up Your Honesty After Sexual Betrayal

    142 | Level Up Your Honesty After Sexual Betrayal
    Jan 26 2026

    Is honesty just as simple as telling the truth, or is there more to it?

    We are going to unpack that question to reveal some nuances of truth telling that some may not have considered before.

    But isn’t truth, truth?

    Yes, truth is always truth, but what we’ve discovered through our own healing journey is that inside of the practice of telling the truth, there are layers that are not necessarily obvious.

    Today’s topic is not exclusive to the step-by-step process of Full Therapeutic Disclosure, but it is an important foundation for all marriages working to recover from sexual betrayal.

    Join us today to learn how to level up your honesty.

    We pray this blesses you,

    Johnny and Emily

    💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    RESOURCES:

    Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

    Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 124. 124 | From Hurt to Hope Through Rigorous Honesty

    Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal

    NEXT STEPS:

    ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!

    ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast.

    ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
    Show More Show Less
    27 mins
  • 141 | Infidelity Disclosure: How Much Do I Need to Know?

    141 | Infidelity Disclosure: How Much Do I Need to Know?
    Jan 19 2026

    In our previous episode, we were focusing on questions some husbands and wives have about the need for a Full Therapeutic Disclosure as well as some of the reasons couples hesitate to engage in this process.

    We have seen some amazing restoration of marriages through this process and today we’re going to talk about disclosure, not just what happens inside of a Full Therapeutic Disclosure, but also what happens after as couples continue to dig down deep together to become fully known.

    Trying to build a new marriage on a cracked slab is disaster waiting to happen. We must completely remove all traces of rubble and brokenness to rebuild on a new solid foundation. We have found that this can be accomplished through transparency, vulnerability, and rigorous honesty.

    Pop in your ear buds and spend some time with us!

    We pray this blesses you,

    Johnny and Emily

    💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free!

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    RESOURCES:

    Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

    Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 111. Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1)

    Episode 140. How Well Do You Really Know Your Spouse When Infidelity Becomes Your Reality

    NEXT STEPS:

    ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!

    ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast.

    ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
    Show More Show Less
    30 mins
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