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Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

By: Emily & Johnny Spigelmire | Christian Marriage Recovery Coaches
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 ***Top 1.5% Global Podcast*** Dear Betrayed, Are you in shock? Confused, devastated, hurt, angry and feeling like you are not enough? Do you feel like it must be your fault, like you should have somehow seen the signs? Are you grieving the death of the marriage you thought you had? Dear Betrayer, Have you been believing the lie that if people knew what was really in your heart and mind, they would turn their back on you? Have you been convinced that your wife and family would leave you and you would lose everything if/when you came clean? Beloved, do you both feel like your marriage is over? Well, you’re right. That marriage full of secrets and lies IS over. But now there is hope for an honest and transparent marriage - one full of trust, safety, connection, forgiveness, acceptance, and intimacy that you’ve never known before. Bold statement, right? You may be thinking, “No way!” That’s okay. We understand… Hi, we are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and we have been where you are... As a result of adultery fueled by pornography, the marriage vows we had exchanged as starry-eyed newlyweds and had worked so hard to keep were eventually shattered. We’ve been through hell and back. But we are here, together, to let you know that this devastation we experienced was actually a gift. Of course, we didn’t see it that way at first and you probably don’t either. But, through a commitment to recovery, our faith in God, and our hope for redemption, we set out on a journey of healing, and we can’t wait to share what we’ve learned with you. We now have a marriage that continually blows our minds, and we give God all the glory! So, if you’re ready to move from heartbreak and pain to hope and healing, grab your favorite beverage, get comfy, and join us on a journey of faith as we talk through difficult questions like; Is there hope for our marriage? Can I fix all the damage I’ve done? Can I ever trust again? Is true intimacy even possible? We will also do deep dives into the topics of: * Isolation * Guilt and Shame * Anger * Rejection * Addiction * Trauma * Body Image * Triggers * Communication * And more… Our story, like yours, is a messy one. But, with God’s help, it is possible to recover what was lost, stolen, or given away. We know this because God has turned the ashes of our lives into something beautiful and we believe he can do that for you too. You can connect with us at: support@beyondbrokenvows.com https://insider.beyondbrokenvows.com/ https://coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com/ We would love to be part of your journey to healing and wholeness!Copyright 2024 All rights reserved. Christianity Hygiene & Healthy Living Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Social Sciences Spirituality
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  • 135 | Stuck in the Wound: 4 Traps Wives Often Fall Into That Hinder Healing From Sexual Betrayal

    135 | Stuck in the Wound: 4 Traps Wives Often Fall Into That Hinder Healing From Sexual Betrayal
    Dec 8 2025

    When a wife discovers her husband’s sexual betrayal, her world shatters. The path to healing is difficult enough without unknowingly creating additional roadblocks.

    In this episode, we explore 4 common but counterproductive patterns that keep Christian wives stuck in their pain.

    We’ll identify these self-sabotaging behaviors, uncover the biblical truths that dismantle them, and provide practical steps to help you start moving forward on your healing journey, regardless of your husband’s choices.

    We pray this blesses you,

    Johnny and Emily

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe

    RESOURCES:

    Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

    Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 61. Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal?

    Episode 116. From Shattered Vows to Sacred Surrender: The Counterintuitive Path to Healing

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    30 mins
  • 134 | Emotionally Ready for Sex? 4 Steps to Healthy Sexuality for Husbands After Sexual Betrayal

    134 | Emotionally Ready for Sex? 4 Steps to Healthy Sexuality for Husbands After Sexual Betrayal
    Dec 1 2025

    After the discovery and disclosure of sexual betrayal in a marriage, couples who choose to stay married and embrace the healing and recovery journey, will eventually need to address their sexuality again.

    This will look different for every couple, but the ultimate goal is to have a healthier sexual intimacy than before the destruction of porn-fueled infidelity came to light.

    We have been working on this part of our marriage relationship for almost 7 years now and almost one year ago Emily gave me what I call the Golden Ticket. This was her declaration that she would be sexually available to me whenever I initiated it.

    That scared me to death and helped me to realize that this was a huge responsibility and that I needed to approach it with care. This helped me to create the 4 steps to healthy sexuality for husbands that we are covering today.

    Join us for a very candid conversation about sexuality after porn-fueled infidelity today.

    We pray this blesses you,

    Johnny and Emily

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe

    RESOURCES:

    Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

    Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 48. Closing the Gap - 3 Steps to Sexual Intimacy

    Episode 94. From “Oh, Hell No!” to "The Golden Ticket" - 4 Phases of Sexuality in Recovery from Adultery

    NEXT STEPS:

    ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!

    ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast.

    ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
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    34 mins
  • 133 | Infidelity is a Turkey - Here's 6 Reasons to Give Thanks Anyway

    133 | Infidelity is a Turkey - Here's 6 Reasons to Give Thanks Anyway
    Nov 24 2025

    We understand you may be in the middle of the fall-out from sexual betrayal in your marriage. Maybe you just found out, or you have been found out. Maybe you’ve been walking this path for a while and still feel like you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.

    As the holiday season approaches, this unwanted and extremely painful circumstance can destroy all the anticipation of spending special time with family and friends. This week we will celebrate Thanksgiving Day, but it can seem like there is nothing to be thankful for in this dark winter of our souls.

    We want to encourage you with this, while we aren’t grateful for the betrayal itself, we can be grateful that God doesn’t waste our suffering. The pain of infidelity can become the very thing that drives us deeper into dependency on Christ.

    Grab a comforting beverage and listen in for some hope in this challenging time as we give you 6 reasons to be thankful, even while on this messy journey of recovery from infidelity.

    We pray this blesses you,

    Johnny and Emily

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe

    RESOURCES:

    Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

    Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude

    Episode 81. Giving Thanks In The Aftermath of Porn-Fueled Infidelity

    NEXT STEPS:

    ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!

    ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast.

    ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
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    24 mins
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