Today's guest, Dr. John Delony, is someone I have admired from afar for a long time because he has a way of cutting through the noise and getting straight to the heart of what's breaking our families.

In this conversation, John gets incredibly vulnerable about his own "big dirty secret" how his success in the world was masking a "nuclear reactor" of stress that made his own daughter feel unsafe to hug him. We dive deep into the "toolkit crisis" facing men today, why we've started pathologizing normal childhood behavior in boys, and the radical choice to rebuild a marriage from the ashes.

John also turned the tables on me, asking why I decided to "run it back" and get married again after a 20-year journey. This is one of the most raw, honest, and faith-filled conversations I've ever had on this show. If you've ever felt like you were just "performing" your life instead of living it, this episode is for you.

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Chapters:

00:00 - Intro

00:04:06 – Parenting Advice: "Don't Waste My Pain"

00:08:52 – Growing up with a Homicide Detective Dad

00:13:00 – Finding Your Gift: Compassion vs. Intelligence

00:15:43 – The Toolkit Crisis for Modern Men

00:20:20 – Blame Fairly: Setting Down the Cinder Block of Forgiveness

00:25:34 – Why We Are Pathologizing Being a Little Boy

00:31:30 – Lonely Parents & The Smartphone War

00:38:09 – Finding Safety: Sage Steele on Her New Marriage

00:44:31 – The Badass Lesson in Co-Parenting

00:49:45 – The Nuclear Reactor: Healing Hidden Family Trauma

00:56:45 – Marriage as a Covenant: Rebuilding from the Ashes

01:08:13 – Why Run It Back? Sage on Love, Faith, and Resurrection

01:16:08 – Crisis Response: Asking the Next Hard Question

01:25:00 – The Ringside Seat to Human Struggle