Could asking the right questions transform your conversations? That’s the question of the week for Kurt and Tim, as they delve into the power of inquiry and active listening with this week’s esteemed guest, author Jeff Wetzler. Jeff, the author of "Ask," shares groundbreaking research and surprising insights about the impact of asking the right questions, offering listeners a roadmap to navigate the complexities of communication with wit and wisdom.

From the boardroom to the dinner table, effective communication skills are essential. Discover how active listening can not only boost productivity and increase employee satisfaction but also foster deeper, more meaningful relationships. Through thought-provoking discussions and real-world examples, Kurt, Tim, and Jeff challenge conventional wisdom to help listeners gain a deeper understanding of how to engage authentically in both their professional and personal lives.

Ready to level up your communication game? Tune in to this episode for actionable insights and inspiration. Whether you’re a seasoned leader or simply a curious listener, get ready to embark on a journey of compassionate curiosity and active listening. Join the conversation and let us know what questions you have about this episode or Behavioral Grooves! We’d love to hear from you.

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[5:40] Introduction and Speed Round

[11:22] The “Ask Approach” and the power of curiosity

[18:00] Effective listening and learning from others

[26:06] Creating a safe space for open communication

[34:43] Using curiosity to interrupt certainty and gain new perspectives

[43:35] Vibe listening and interpreting conversations

[48:51] Desert Island music

[53:51] Grooving session - the importance of asking questions, active listening, and micro-expressions

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** Rankin, Paul T. “The Importance of Listening Ability.” The English Journal, vol. 17, no. 8, 1928, pp. 623–30. JSTOR, https://doi.org/10.2307/803100. Accessed 10 Apr. 2024.

Ask by Jeff Wetzler

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What is Active Listening?

Paul Simon - 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover

Indigo Girls - Closer to Fine

Dave Carter and Tracey Grammer - When I Go

Ever find yourself coasting on autopilot a bit too often in your daily routine? Seeking ways to be more present and truly connect with your habits to enhance your life? Join Kurt and Tim on a profound exploration into the world of sense foraging and breaking free from autopilot habits.

In this enlightening episode, Kurt and Tim are joined by special guests Norman Farb and Zindel Segal, esteemed researchers in psychology and neuroscience, and co-authors of the insightful book "Better in Every Sense." Together, they delve into the transformative power of intentional sensory exploration, curiosity, and savoring to elevate everyday experiences. Dive into the complexities of modern life, including the challenges of stress, burnout, and dysregulation, while gaining valuable insights into understanding your ‘default mode’ and the pivotal role of the salience network in directing your focus to the present moment.

Discover actionable strategies for integrating sense foraging into your daily life, from relishing the flavor of your morning coffee to heightening your awareness of the sensations in your environment. In their grooving session, Kurt and Tim underscore the importance of breaking away from habitual routines and fostering mindfulness to improve decision-making and overall well-being. Whether you're seeking to shift your perspective or embark on a journey toward intentional living, this episode offers invaluable guidance to kickstart your transformation. Tune in now and take the first step toward finding your groove!

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[5:10] Intro and speed round

[7:30] Default mode - breaking out and toggling in

[11:56] House of Habit

[18:42] Perceptual inference and active inference

[23:53] How foraging leads to a better life

[29:26] Toggle in for engagement and break away from default mode

[39:12] Sensory engagement and learning

[44:33] Hearing vs. listening

[46:58] Desert island music

[53:44] Grooving session: habits, autopilot, and how to create your own groove moments

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Better in Every Sense: How the New Science of Sensation Can Help You Reclaim Your Life

Norman Farb

Zindel Segal

Default Mode Network (DMN)

Paying Attention to Senses Can Help Reset the Mind

The Rolling Stones “Winter”

Underworld “Born Slippy”

Cream “Sunshine of Your Love”

A Tribe Called Quest “Can I Kick It?”

What separates a ritual from a habit? Join Kurt and Tim this week as they delve into the intriguing world of rituals and habits with special guest Mike Norton, acclaimed author of The Ritual Effect. Together, they explore the nuances that distinguish rituals from mere habits, shedding light on how rituals infuse our daily lives with meaning and significance.

According to Michael, rituals are more than just actions; they're meaningful celebrations or purpose-driven practices that elevate our routines. From something as simple as brushing your teeth to larger group activities, the trio discusses how rituals add depth and emotion to our everyday experiences.

As the episode unfolds, Kurt, Tim, and Mike examine how rituals impact not only individuals but also relationships and work teams. They navigate the delicate balance between rituals that unite and those that divide, emphasizing the importance of consensus in fostering a sense of belonging and satisfaction.

Through personal anecdotes and keen insights, the trio offers listeners a thought-provoking journey into the profound influence of rituals on behavior, perceptions, and relationships. Don't miss out on this enlightening discussion! Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the rituals that shape our lives. And if you enjoy the episode, be sure to rate and review us on your favorite podcast platform—we'd love to hear your thoughts and continue the conversation.

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[5:33] Intro and speed round

[10:24] Is brushing your teeth a ritual?

[14:00] The benefits and limitations of rituals and habits in daily life

[20:19] Rituals in relationships

[24:00] The meaning behind group rituals

[33:20] Corporate team-building activities

[42:33] The role of music in cultural rituals and traditions

[51:27] Grooving session: Rituals and their meanings in daily life

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The Ritual Effect

Michael Norton

Michael's TED Talk - Why Rituals Matter

The Band “Atlantic City”

Gillian Welch “I Want to Sing That Rock and Roll”

Buddy Holly “Rave On”

Arlo Guthrie “Alice’s Restaurant Massacree”