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Becoming You

Becoming You

By: Visa Shanmugam
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The Becoming You podcast is a show for high-achieving individuals searching for more meaning, fulfillment, and purpose in life. It dives deep into self-love, spirituality, and mindset. I am Visa Shanmugam, your host, and life and mindset coach. Join me every week to learn how to go from living a life on autopilot to a fully conscious, present life using nothing but the power of your mind. Learn more at www.visalakshi.com

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Episodes
  • Four Things You Are Doing Backwards with Your Kids
    Oct 18 2023

    Is criticism overshadowing celebration in your parenting approach? Are you always swooping in to save your children from any discomfort?

    This episode breaks down why it's so tough for us to focus on the wins and the progress crucial for our children's growth and self-esteem, why we focus on happiness instead of resiliency, and other things we do backwards in parenting.

    This episode is a masterclass on what you can start doing today to cultivate more independence, resilience, happiness and self esteem in your children.

    [00:03:04] Self-criticism and parenting habits linked to emotional wounds; importance of changing negative mindset.

    [00:05:02] Encourage consistent effort, celebrate small wins, and avoid focusing on shortcomings.

    [00:09:30] We should celebrate kids' achievements, gain their trust, and keep our promises.

    [00:12:22] Parent struggles with bedtime routine and prioritizing self-care, but maintains promise to child with consequences for breaking trust.

    [00:17:50] Parenting should be based on building emotional resilience, not just making children happy. It's about helping them handle frustration, disappointment, and anger.

    [00:19:53] The focus should be on emotional resilience, not just happiness. Happiness comes from struggles and discomfort. Saving kids from challenges hinders their emotional growth and independence.

    [00:24:14] Setting up routines and structures can alleviate the mental load and help children become independent. Montessori method encourages allowing children to make mistakes to foster independence.

    [00:27:11] Setting them up to rely on you, feeling resentful of lack of independence, punishing them for mistakes, avoiding reflection and change, going back to old routines instead of adapting and sharing responsibilities. Healing relationship with mistakes.


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    32 mins
  • Co-Parent Clash - How to Create Peace and Harmony through Collaboration
    Oct 10 2023

    What do you do when you have a spouse, partner, or someone you co-parent with that is not on the same page as you are when it comes to parenting your children?

    I often get this question from clients who are on board and doing the transformative work of becoming a conscious, peaceful parent. And yet, their spouses haven't gotten the memo and their spouses don't want to follow or be part of the transformative work.

    My clients end up in this world of being torn and are left feeling they have to parent their children and parent their spouse as well, It can be really, really hard when it feels like you against the entire world, including your partner or the parent or the co parent.

    This week - I want to give you some mindset perspectives and tangible things that you can do to help you co parent more peacefully, so you're not ending up feeling exhausted and drained.

    Where do you see these dynamics? What are you going to do this week to build a new foundation with your co-parent?

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    30 mins
  • Parenting Strategies are not enough - This is what you are missing
    Oct 3 2023

    Is your parenting effective? Are you having lots of fights, yelling and constantly nagging? Do you feel disrespected?

    Today I have a really hard hitting episode for you and you might be uncomfortable confronting some of your parenting strategies and why they are not working, especially if you have been taking in different parenting ideas from books and podcasts.

    No matter the age of your kids are or where you are in your parenting journey, how you parent needs to start changing today if you desire to have a peaceful, deeply connected relationship with your child and if you want to stop yelling.

    If you're feeling disconnected from your child, and worry that if you keep talking to your them and treating them the way you are you won't have that close relationship where they come to you no matter what - take some time to examine these 5 reasons your strategies are falling short.

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    30 mins
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