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Attachment in the Age of Ambiguity: Why Modern Love Feels So Unstable

Attachment in the Age of Ambiguity: Why Modern Love Feels So Unstable

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Why do modern relationships feel so anxious...even when nothing’s technically wrong.

In this episode of The Hidden Logic of Desire, we break down how love, safety, and connection are rewired in 2025’s dating ecosystem. From the loneliness epidemic to the rise of situationships, from anxious and avoidant loops to jealousy-by-location sharing, this deep dive traces how our nervous systems, and our apps, shape attachment itself.


Inside this episode:


  • The Loneliness Collapse: why hyper-connected people feel emotionally starved


  • Situationships & Ambiguity: how “keeping it casual” became an anxiety factory


  • Attachment Styles Under Pressure: anxious vs. avoidant in algorithmic dating


  • Micromonitoring & Jealousy: when safety tech becomes surveillance


  • Co-Regulation vs. Self-Soothing: the hidden cost of emotional independence


  • Building Secure Attachment: scripts, pacing, consent fluency, and algorithm hygiene that actually calm the body



Rooted in neuroscience, social data, and cultural context, Attachment in the Age of Ambiguity explores what it takes to feel safe...and stay sane...while dating in a world that profits from insecurity.


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