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If you’ve ever felt the immediate urge to jump in, fix the problem, and make everything better — this episode is for you.

In senior living leadership, the instinct to rescue is common. When someone comes to you overwhelmed or stressed, your body reacts before your brain does. Your chest tightens. Your heart races. You feel the pressure to act fast.

That reaction isn’t leadership instinct — it’s anxiety.

In this follow-up episode to The Questions That Build Leaders, Erin explores the skill underneath asking better questions: learning how to breathe through the anxiety of fixing, rescuing, and over-functioning.

This is a mentoring-style episode that teaches leaders how to pause, regulate their nervous system, and stay present long enough to help others think, grow, and solve problems for themselves — without guilt, shame, or withdrawal of support.

As Erin shares throughout the episode:
Every time you help someone solve their own problem, your influence grows.

🎧 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why the urge to fix feels urgent — and why it’s often anxiety, not leadership
• How rescuing creates short-term relief but long-term dependence
• The simple one-breath pause that interrupts over-functioning
• How to respond instead of react when problems come to you
• Why fixing soothes the leader but doesn’t build confidence in others
• How asking questions actually multiplies support instead of withholding it
• The connection between calm leadership, influence, and capacity
• How to stop being the bottleneck and start building leaders
• Why leadership requires awareness more than urgency

🌱 Key Takeaway

You don’t have to fix everything to be a great leader.

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is stay present in the discomfort long enough to let someone find their own answer. That pause — even one breath — is where confidence, ownership, and leadership capacity begin to grow.

📣 Resources & Next Steps

If this episode resonates with you, you may also enjoy:
🎧 The Questions That Build Leaders (previous episode)

💡 Erin also teaches these skills inside the 100% Leader Program, where leaders learn how to build capacity, confidence, and influence without burning out.
Details and links are available in the show notes.

🤝 Let’s Keep the Conversation Going

If this episode helped you:

• Share it with a leader who carries too much
• Listen to the previous episode as a companion
• Send Erin a message with your biggest takeaway

As always, aspire for more for you , knowing you’re already enough.

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In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Erin unpacks the hidden relationship between resentment, worthiness, emotional capacity, and gratitude. You’ll learn why hustling for validation keeps leaders stuck, why gratitude is NOT soft — it’s strategic — and how "stacking the evidence" can rewire your identity, rebuild your confidence, and protect you from burnout.

If you've ever struggled to feel proud of what you’ve accomplished… or if you've been waiting for someone else to notice your work… this episode will shift something inside you.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why gratitude is the antidote to resentment
• How leaders numb themselves without realizing it
• Why “hustling for worthiness” keeps you stuck
• The neuroscience behind gratitude and identity
• The “Stack the Evidence” tool that builds confidence
• How to grow emotional capacity in high-pressure roles
• Why gratitude makes you a leader people want to follow

Key Concepts & Takeaways:

• The opposite of gratitude is resentment — and resentment is unprocessed disappointment
• You can’t feel joy when you’re still clinging to anger
• Gratitude is not soft; it rewires your brain for clarity and confidence
• Your brain believes what you rehearse
• You can stack evidence of failure… or evidence of growth
• Gratitude creates expansion, capacity, and alignment
• Leadership influence grows when leaders notice the right things

Reflection Questions:

1. What resentment am I still carrying that is blocking gratitude?
2. What evidence have I ignored about my success or growth?
3. What am I grateful for today that I used to pray for?

Links & Next Steps:

• Join the January 100% Leader Cohort
• Book a December Clarity Call
• Subscribe to Erin’s Saturday Morning Email

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