Why are men often so childish and immature, and so impossible to change? Drawing on 35+ years as a music business executive, interviews with 100 ordinary men (and women), and his life as a husband, ex-husband, and father to three sons, best-Selling author Tom Sturges attempts to make men less confounding and a lot easier to live with in his new book MEN EXPLAINEDF, FINALLYOver his 35 years in the music business, Tom Sturges has signed and/or collaborated with all different variations of the male "species," including Dave Grohl (Foo Fighters), Flea (Red Hot Chili Peppers), Big Boi and André 3000 (Outkast), Billy Corgan (Smashing Pumpkins), 50 Cent, and Jon Bon Jovi. As a husband, ex-husband, and father to three sons, he has also lived and survived many "typical man" experiences. Through countless hours of golfing, watching football, drinking beer, and hanging out with the guys, Tom has discovered a whole lot of man truths, which he reveals in his totally unscientific, often hilarious, and sometimes startlingly wise new book, MEN EXPLAINED, FINALLY (Centimilla Press; October 7, 2025; ISBN: ISBN 979-8-89976-012-9, Hardback; ISBN 979-8-89976-011-2, Paperback; 239 pages).With tongue-in-cheek humor and a caveman-like commitment to the unadulterated truth, Tom Sturges lets women in on why men, generally speaking, think and act as if they are forever fourteen. Tom believes that women may gain some insights that lead to better relationships with the men in their lives. And men? Well, they might just develop some self-awareness... and a beard, if they want one. LOL. "While some of the fellas may rebuke me for what I've revealed, I think that none of them will disagree with the basic premise or foundational promise of this work," Tom asserts. "I would bet many of them don't even know this stuff about themselves, even though they enjoy the privileges of it every day."Organized in three parts, MEN EXPLAINED, FINALLY presents 45 essays, plus a few brief thoughts, on various topics related to Men (Part I), Men Compared to Women (Part 2), and Men and Women Getting Together (Part 3). At the book's core are two simple facts: Men are much more like other men than they would probably like to admit, and as noted before, Men are fourteen, forever.While a lot of people (okay, women) find men to be childish, immature, and often unwilling to make the slightest effort to grow up, Tom argues that maybe that's one of men's superpowers. And when women recognize that men bluff and bluster, and cling to beliefs in fate, luck, heroism, and love at first sight, it makes men so much easier to understand, accept just as they are, and love.Curious? Here's a taste of what Tom Sturges reveals: Men aim to please. "We love pleasing. We are, by and large, givers," Tom attests. But there's a catch: "We have to be asked nicely. It's a must. A request cannot sound like an order or a demand. Or worse, like some command."Men love forever. Men never forget the perfect thrill of a first crush or early love affairs. Trying to re-ignite an old flame? That's pure idiocy. "When it comes to old loves, men much prefer their memories to their realities," Tom notes. "There is a reason we call it 'Glory Days.'"Men compartmentalize. Why are men so good at putting messy stuff into boxes? For men, compartmentalization is a defense mechanism-a system for coping with life's complications and disappointments. "So," Tom advises women, "if a man has gotten lost in one of his boxes, be patient. Let him find himself again, on his timeline, not yours."
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