This week, Mal and Steggy talk about what made them cry! Which leads into a discussion about gentle men vs violent men. We explore the difference between men who lead with tenderness and men who move through the world with volatility, and how that shapes our sense of safety and trust.And, in true us fashion, the conversation shifts into a fully serious breakdown of our roles in a hypothetical zombie apocalypse. From instincts to strategy to who actually survives, we unpack the gendered dynamics that show up even at the end of the world.

In this episode, I dive into the chaos of modern dating, where nonchalant DMs and bare-minimum effort somehow became the norm..yikes! I reflect on how that culture has shaped the way I, and most of society, interprets interest, why genuine intention can feel suspicious, and how being used to intensity makes healthy pacing feel unfamiliar. I briefly talk about unlearning old patterns, relearning what softness and trust look like, and navigating the tiny panic that comes with the very unfamiliar slow burn. Most importantly, I explore what it means to build a happy, healthy relationship with myself first so that whenever the right person shows up, I’ll be as ready as I can be!

In this episode, Steggy wanders through the constellation of her past red flags, the cosmic kind that look like “potential” until they burn you out. From rescuing the perpetually unlucky to mistaking chaos for chemistry, she unpacks the patterns that kept her orbiting the same lessons. It’s raw and hopefully funny as she turns her heartbreak into a healing spell (with a pinch of self-roast). This is for anyone who’s ever said “maybe this time it’ll be different”...and finally realized they were the magic all along.

In this episode, we revisit the "What Made You Cry This Week" segment and explore some of our favorite relationship theories; the weird ones, the oddly accurate ones, and the ones that make you question everything you thought you knew about timing and connection.

Everyone keeps asking if I’m alone… but honestly? The quiet of my own galaxy feels better than orbiting someone who doesn’t see me. In this brief episode, I (Steggy) talk about celestial solitude and how people tend to confuse my peace with loneliness.

Mal and Steggy dive into red flags, karmic lessons, and why every ex seems to be a Libra. Mix in a little K-pop, cosmic chaos, and self-awareness, and you’ve got another episode straight from the stars

In this episode, Mal and Steggy dive into their shared history! They go through the chaos, laughter, and lessons that carried them from their 20s into their 30s. They reflect on how friendships evolve with age, what it takes to stay connected through life’s changes, and how creativity became a grounding force along the way. Through honest conversation and humor, they share how Moonlight & Stardust came to life, an idea of a space born from friendship and a little bit of magic.

WE'RE OFFICIALLY LAUNCHED!

In this full-length debut episode of Actually, You Know What, I briefly unpack the chaos of my dating life - from moving to Chicago (and back) to navigating heartbreaks, dating apps, and the fine line between insecurity and trauma. It’s raw, funny, and real, with some honest advice for men thrown in for good measure. Because I'm nice like that. I hope you enjoy - weekly episodes will be dropped every Monday!