At 17, Susan Snow’s father—a Los Angeles robbery–homicide detective—was assassinated while picking up her younger brother from school. Overnight, her life became sirens, cameras, and a brave face that hid years of panic and hyper-vigilance. The first therapist told her she was “fine.” She wasn’t. A decade later, the Columbine shooting triggered flashbacks and a spiral that finally led to a trauma-informed clinician who named it: PTSD—not a moral failing, not something you “get over,” something you learn to manage.

In this episode, Susan shares the long arc from shock to strength: choosing safe providers, setting boundaries with media and people, regulating a fried nervous system, and repairing relationships through honest conversation and accountability. Writing her memoir, The Other Side of the Gun, became both a reckoning and a roadmap—for her family and for anyone living in trauma’s wake. This one is practical, steady, and fiercely hopeful: you can’t change what happened, but you can change how you live with it.

• [00:00] Cold open: “Taking your power back” — why naming trauma matters

• [02:00] 1985: the call, the school lot, and the moment everything changed

• [06:30] Media glare, armed guards, and the mask of strength

• [10:30] “You’re fine”: when therapy misses trauma

• [15:30] Denver & Columbine: flashbacks, panic, and the wake-up call

• [19:30] “This is PTSD”: validation, vocabulary, and first tools

• [24:00] Boundaries that heal: news limits, safe people, body-based regulation

• [30:00] Repairing at home: hard conversations, apologies, accountability

• [36:00] Writing the book: timelines, memory, and telling the whole story

• [42:00] Purpose & service: coaching, speaking, and modeling mental health

• [46:00] Closing: it’s a marathon—how to keep going without burning out

• Book: The Other Side of the Gun: My Journey from Trauma to Resiliency (print, Kindle, audiobook)

• Site: Susan Snow Speaks — speaking, coaching, contact & discovery call

What if the voice that saves your life is your own? In this deeply human conversation, writer and coach David Alan Brown traces the slow erosion of self that came from always being “the good one”—the supportive partner, the present dad, the dependable friend—until one pandemic night he drove in circles, ideating, and realized he needed help. Therapy, awareness, and a surprising validation—“anger is the appropriate reaction here”—reopened his emotional life. From there, David rebuilt with a simple framework: cultivate awareness, honor emotion (without judgment), and take aligned action.

That framework became Convergence, his program for weaving three voices—instinct/emotion, active intellect, and a higher-power “I got you” presence—into one integrated way of living. We dig into functional depression, the gifts inside every feeling (“the gift of anger is motivation”), and how to move from autopilot to authorship—on purpose, one step at a time. If you’ve been drifting through your own story, this episode hands the pen back to you.

• [00:00] Cold open + premise: “Find the simple thing that helps you remember you are worthy…”

• [02:30] Author your life: handing the pen to others vs. taking it back (James & David)

• [05:00] Backstory → “good guy” identity; slow self-erasure by helpfulness and humility

• [10:00] Functional depression as numbness; the lyric that revealed “I haven’t felt anything”

• [11:30] Pandemic triggers; late-night drive and suicidal ideation; choosing to tell the truth in therapy

• [20:00] Relearning feelings without judgment; “anger is appropriate” + the gifts inside emotion

• [29:30] The return of the third voice: “I got you” (story of his son + the inner voice)

• [31:00] Convergence framework: emotion ↔ action ↔ higher-power integration (Venn lens)

• [39:00] Building the program with community conversations; who it helps most

• [43:30] What it’s like to work the program: tools, community, authenticity, love in action

• [48:00] Writing the memoir as unflinching self-inventory; why he knows what he knows

• [51:30] Big life bet: moving to NYC with faith and practices intact

• [53:30] Close: worthiness, simple mantras, one step at a time

• Website: home

• Program: Convergence (details via website/contact)

In middle school, Laura Bratton looked up at the blackboard and the words had disappeared. A rare retinal disease began taking her sight piece by piece—with no timeline, no roadmap, and no way to “prepare.” What followed was denial, panic attacks, and a daily apprenticeship in grit. With parents who refused to lower the bar (see the now-famous dishwasher story), Laura learned to take life inch by inch: get up, get dressed, get to school—win the day. Later, a guide dog in San Francisco became her first big “I can” moment.

In this conversation, Laura reframes two ideas most people get wrong: grief and gratitude. Grief isn’t failure; it’s fuel for grit. And gratitude isn’t loving your trauma—it’s appreciating what helps you navigate it (hello, guide dogs, Siri, and Alexa). Laura shares practical coaching cues for agency (“What’s one step today—one call, one email?”) and leaves listeners with a simple charge for any identity shift: give yourself compassion, then take the first step forward.

• [00:00] Gratitude clarified: not for trauma, but for what helps you navigate it (yes, Siri/Alexa).

• [01:00] The geography-class moment: the blackboard goes blurry; life tilts.

• [05:00] Denial → “I can’t do this” → anxiety and depression.

• [08:30] “Inch by inch”: parents’ day-by-day mantra.

• [10:00] The dishwasher story: standards stay high; victim identity denied.

• [14:00] First guide dog in San Francisco: choosing to embody grit.

• [16:30] Identity + grief: permission to grieve and move forward at once.

• [21:00] Coaching others: acknowledge loss, then ask for one step today.

• [31:00] “Grief fuels grit”: holding both at the same time.

• [32:00] Gratitude practice: three specifics per day, no repeats; the mindset shift.

• [36:00] Myths: gratitude ≠ forced happiness; keep it embodied, not rote.

• [38:00] Agency: you can’t control circumstances, but you can control response.

• [40:00] Core message: “You are still enough” through any identity change.

• [41:00] Where to find Laura & her work: Laura Bratton | Keynote Speaker .

• [43:00] Final charge: self-compassion first, then one courageous step.

• Book: Harnessing Courage: Overcoming Adversity with Grit and Gratitude — Laura Bratton.

• Speaking/Coaching: Laura Bratton | Keynote Speaker (contact, programs, book info).