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#91 Mature Masculinity: Overcome Avoidant Attachment & Lead with Safety with Adam Lane Smith

#91 Mature Masculinity: Overcome Avoidant Attachment & Lead with Safety with Adam Lane Smith

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 If you can crush it at work but feel lost at home, this episode is your blueprint to restore emotional safety in marriage—fast.Attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith joins host Greg Denning to decode why so many driven men struggle with intimacy, connection, and calm at home. You’ll learn how early attachment patterns wire your nervous system for constant cortisol and how to retrain it so your wife and kids finally feel safe with you. Adam lays out the four levels of safety every husband must provide (physical, resource, emotional, bonding) and the four levels of peace a wife can return (calm, gentle speech, loyal partnership, executive co-leadership). You’ll discover practical, science-backed tools—co-regulation, oxytocin/vasopressin bonding, and negotiation frameworks—that turn conflict into teamwork and stress into stability.Whether you’re an entrepreneur or a busy professional, you’ll walk away with step-by-step tactics to regulate your nervous system, communicate like a CEO/COO team with your spouse, and build a legacy your kids will carry for generations. If “being present,” “bonding,” and “feeling close” have felt vague or unreachable, this conversation makes them actionable.Key Takeaways✅ Attachment styles significantly influence how we connect with others.✅ Men often struggle with emotional safety due to their upbringing.✅ Emotional safety is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.✅ Men must provide four levels of safety for their partners.✅ Women need to feel safe to express their emotions and concerns.✅ Building a legacy starts with creating a secure family environment.✅ Personal sovereignty is essential for mature masculinity.✅ Nervous system regulation is key to emotional health.✅ Healthy relationships require effort and intentionality from both partners.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Attachment Theory02:24 Understanding Attachment Styles06:02 The Importance of Emotional Connection09:15 Actionable Steps for Men10:52 Four Levels of Safety for Relationships21:48 The Role of Women in Emotional Safety29:42 Navigating Chaos Together30:12 The Power of Physical Connection32:16 The Four Levels of Peace in Relationships35:40 The Role of Fathers in Building Trust37:20 Executive Partnership in Marriage39:54 The Legacy of Family Dynamics42:39 The Importance of Healthy Family Structures44:33 The Reality of Big Families48:49 The Path to Personal Sovereignty58:09 Mature Masculinity and Legacy BuildingResources for Adam:Use Code: BETHEMAN10 for 10% off!Homepage: https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=betheman&utm_____medium=affiliate&utm_medium=affiliateCourses:https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-build-a-secure-marriage/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliateCoaching:https://adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/group-coaching/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliateRESOURCES FOR GREG:Let me help you in your journey to becoming a more Purpose Driven Leader:Free course! Adventuring With Your ChildrenFree! Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Get Greg’s NEW Formidable Family Man BOOK!Join Greg’s 90-DAY HEALTH & FITNESS CHALLENGE! Podcast: The Formidable Family Man PodcastCheck out this podcast for families Extraordinary Family Life PodcastJoin the Formidable Family Man Masterclass and Tribe⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram:⁠@greg.denning⁠Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/greghdenning Gather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in Portugal
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