What if the most important love story you nurture this Valentine's Week isn't with a partner, but with yourself? In this conversation on Pleasure in the Pause, host Gabriella Espinosa sits down with Amy St. Germain, founder of Oboo, a pleasure-forward wellness brand creating tools designed specifically for midlife bodies.

This episode is a shame-free exploration of self-pleasure as self-care, the health benefits of vibrators for midlife women, and why desire doesn't disappear as our bodies change. Whether you're navigating dryness, decreased sensitivity, or simply want to reclaim pleasure on your own terms, this conversation reminds you that your body is amazing at every age.

Amy St. Germain is the founder of Oboo, a pleasure-forward wellness brand creating tools and products designed for midlife bodies. What started as her own wake-up call turned into a mission to make intimacy, desire, and self-pleasure feel accessible, practical, and shame-free. Through Oboo's thoughtfully designed products and open, honest conversations, Amy helps women feel more at home in their bodies, laugh a little more about the changes of midlife, and stay open to trying something new. Her approach blends curiosity, humor, and real-life usefulness. Her favorite reminder: desire doesn't disappear in midlife. It just needs better lighting, better language, and better tools.

Highlights from our discussion include:

• 50% of women over 50 stop having sex or being intimate altogether, but we have at least 30 more years to enjoy pleasure.
• Vibrators aren't just for pleasure. They improve blood flow, reduce dryness, support pelvic floor health, and can even reduce hot flashes.
• The "Pleasure Reset" is five minutes of pressure-free self-pleasure with no goal, no performance, just reconnection with your body.
• Better lighting, better language, and better tools are what desire needs in midlife, not fixing something that's broken.
• Pregaming (warming yourself up before partner intimacy) takes the pressure off and allows you to arrive ready and connected.
• Using lubricant makes everything feel better, even if you don't think you need it. Comfort first, then move to the next steps.

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Resources Mentioned:

Blog - The Pleasure Reset (5-minute pressure-free self-pleasure practice)

Kinsey Institute research on self-pleasure and symptom relief

Ep 80 Good Vibes

Ep 64 Communicating with a Partner about Pleasure

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