欢迎参加2026年的家庭系统排列工作坊：
📩 报名链接：https://hipsy.nl/meeei

在这一集播客中，我邀请你一起放慢脚步，回到一个许多父母都会反复思考、却很少真正停下来感受的问题：
作为父母，我们究竟能给孩子最珍贵的礼物是什么？

在多年陪伴家庭、尤其是青春期孩子家庭的过程中，我一次又一次地看到：
真正让关系发生改变的，往往并不是更多的方法、技巧或控制，而是父母是否愿意回到自己，回到内在，回到关系本身。

在这一集中，我将与你分享：

• 为什么很多家庭在青春期阶段，会陷入冲突、对抗与疏离
• 一个重要的视角转变：当父母停止“改变孩子”，真正的改变才开始发生
• “面纱”的隐喻：我们如何常常透过自己未被疗愈的经历在看孩子
• 父母自我疗愈，如何自然地改变看待孩子的方式
• 一个关于夫妻关系的核心发现：夫妻之间的连接，是孩子最重要的“隐形教材”
• 一个非常温和、却极具力量的练习：祝福
  • 祝福与期待的关键区别
  • 为什么真正的祝福是“给力的”，而期待往往是“施压的”
  • 如何从内在开始，祝福伴侣，而不要求对方改变

这一集不仅是关于亲子关系的播客，也是一集关于父母如何活出真实、完整人生的分享。

In this episode, I invite you to slow down and gently explore a question many parents carry in their hearts, yet rarely have the space to truly feel:
What is the most precious gift parents can give their children?

Through years of working with families, especially those navigating adolescence, I have seen again and again that lasting change rarely comes from more techniques, control, or “doing better.”
Instead, transformation begins when parents are willing to return to themselves and to the quality of their relationships.

In this episode, I share:

• Why so many families experience conflict, distance, and power struggles during adolescence
• A crucial shift in perspective: when parents stop trying to change their child, change often begins
• The metaphor of the “veil”: how our own unresolved experiences shape how we see our children
• How self-healing in parents naturally transforms the parent-child relationship
• A key insight about intimate relationships: the connection between parents is the most powerful, yet often invisible, lesson for children
• A gentle but deeply impactful practice: blessing
  • The difference between blessing and expectation
  • Why true blessings are empowering, while expectations often create pressure
  • How parents can bless their partner from within, without needing the other to change

This episode is not only about parenting, but about how parents live their own lives.