Dr. Lakelyn talks with dementia educator Carrie Aalberts, also known as Dementia Darling, about challenging dementia-related behaviors like agitation, aggression, and sexual expression. Carrie explains how these actions are rooted in brain change—not purposeful or willful—and offers practical, empathetic strategies for caregivers. Together, they discuss medical triggers to watch for, when to seek outside help, and how to handle sensitive situations with compassion.

Episode highlights include:

-Understanding why agitation and aggression are symptoms of brain change

-Reframing “behaviors” with empathy instead of blame

-Trying different approaches when one solution doesn’t work

-Spotting hidden medical causes like pain or UTIs

-Knowing when it’s time for respite, home care, or memory care

-Navigating sexual expression in dementia with sensitivity and respect

Helpful links from the episode:

- Follow Carrie on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, and TikTok: @dementiadarling

- Learn more about Carrie’s work:www.dementiadarling.com

- Listen to Carrie’s podcast Gather Darlings with Nicole Will

- Visit www.homeinstead.com/care-resources to explore more caregiving resources

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