What can decades of lived BDSM history teach us about power, desire and the erotic mind?

We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.

Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.

You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.

This week we go all the way back to episode 3 and explore The Hedonist Mentor: Kinkalong on 40 Years of BDSM, Bisexuality & Erotic Psychology

In this episode, we delve into the rich experiences and wisdom of Marc, a bisexual hedonist, switch, and mentor with decades of involvement in the kink community.

We discuss:

• The evolution of the kink scene over the past few decades.
• The intersection of bisexuality and mental health in navigating identity.
• Lessons learned from living the lifestyle as a mentor and switch.
• Balancing power dynamics in relationships with his Domme wife.
• And much more...

Research paper: Disclosure and Concealment of Sexual Orientation and the Mental Health of Non-Gay-Identified, Behaviorally-Bisexual Men.

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Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

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