A step-by-step guide to dating over 50 without wasting time, losing hope, or ignoring your three H’s: head, heart, and hoo-ha.

Still saying yes when your whole body is screaming no? In this episode of Love at Any Age, dating coach Laurie Gerber breaks down five classic dating mistakes women over 50 make that quietly destroy their 3H alignment — your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha. If you keep repeating the same relationship patterns, this is your loving but firm wake-up call.

Laurie walks you through how each internal “voter” works, why dating over 50 requires clear boundaries, and exactly where midlife daters tend to slip: agreeing to second and third dates when you’re already sure it’s a no, skipping the video chat and wasting nights on dud dates, texting your way into a fantasy instead of testing compatibility, having sex long before your 3H is a full-body yes, and pretending to be “low maintenance” or more easygoing than you really are. She gives you scripts, timing guidelines, and real-life examples so you can protect your emotional safety and your hope in love.

Whether you’re newly back in the dating scene, feeling burned out from online dating, or just ready to stop staying too long in the wrong situations, this episode will help you create your own set of dating promises. You’ll walk away with clear rules for video chats, texting, sex and truth-telling so your head, heart, and hoo-ha can finally vote yes on the same person.

You’ll learn: - Why saying yes when you mean no destroys trust between your head, heart, and hoo-ha - How staying too long in the wrong relationship makes you cynical about dating over 50 - The simple rule for when to ask for a video chat before a first date (and exactly what to say) - How to interpret a man’s response when you request a video chat — and when it’s actually good news if he disappears - Why texting too much too soon creates a fantasy instead of testing real-life compatibility - The dangers of having sex before your 3H is fully on board and you’ve agreed to monogamy - How faking your interests, needs, or “low maintenance” persona traps you in the wrong relationship - How to turn these five dating mistakes into personal promises that protect your hope, time, and heart

Timestamps 0:00 to 1:23 – Welcome back, 3H recap, and why we’re focusing on what you don’t want in dating 1:23 to 2:35 – How head, heart, and hoo-ha alignment works and what happens when one voter gets ignored 2:36 to 5:33 – Mistake #1: Saying yes when you mean no and staying too long in the wrong relationship 5:33 to 12:08 – Mistake #2: Skipping the video chat before a live date and exactly how to ask for a low-pressure video vet 12:08 to 18:13 – Mistake #3: Texting too much too soon and the danger of building a fantasy connection over text only 18:14 to 21:49 – Mistake #4: Having sex too soon and why waiting until all three H’s are a strong yes protects your heart 22:00 to 24:45 – Mistake #5: Faking anything to make someone like you instead of showing up as your real self 24:45 to 26:41 – Homework: Review your five biggest dating mistakes and write new 3H-aligned rules and promises for yourself 26:41 to 27:33 – Next week’s topic: How to give and receive rejection with grace so fear doesn’t keep you from dating

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