25. Personalisation - Me Blame.
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25. Personalisation - Me Blame.
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About this listen
In today’s episode, we dive deep into a sneaky and exhausting thinking trap: Personalization (Me-Blame) — the mental habit of believing everything going wrong is somehow your fault. Greg explores how this faulty thinking drains men of energy, inflates guilt, and wrecks intimacy.
🔍 Key Takeaways-
Personalization = blaming yourself for things you didn’t cause.
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Often rooted in early emotional conditioning and trauma.
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Reinforces guilt, martyrdom, and unearned responsibility.
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Creates distance in relationships by reacting to imagined blame.
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Prevents emotional connection and trust in your partner’s autonomy.
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Reality-check your thoughts: “Is this really about me?”
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Ask gently instead of assuming: “You okay?”
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Separate feelings from facts.
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Say out loud: “That’s not mine to carry.”
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Trust your partner’s emotions belong to her.
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Shift from guilt to curiosity: “What’s going on for her?”
“You’re not a walking apology. You’re a human in progress — and not everything is about you.”
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