You know all about red flags and what men want. That information fills every dating coach's feed. But here's what nobody talks about: where your attention goes during your dating journey.

Your attention determines everything. When you focus on the 99% of guys who aren't right for you, your mental energy flows there instead of toward your vision. When you obsess over your ex's new girlfriend or rehearse angry texts, you drain the energy you need to create what you want.

Think about it like this: imagine a room filled with puppies and kittens—everything you love. But a rattlesnake sits in the corner. You won't enjoy a single puppy because your eye stays locked on that snake. That's how your brain works with dating. One wrong thing captures all your focus while opportunities pass you by.

Women tell me they do everything right, yet feel stuck. I always find their attention lives somewhere else—on past hurt, on people's opinions, on what's not working. Your surface actions don't matter when your mind swirls with fear and frustration underneath.

This year, learn to direct your attention consciously. Stop the exhausting mental loops. Create space for the love life you want.

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