Do It From Love Not For Love– Amanda Sharp

What if the version of “love” you’ve been giving isn’t really love at all—but a disguised form of people-pleasing, self-abandonment, or enabling?

In this deep and candid conversation, we take a hard look at the patterns so many of us fall into: over-giving, over-apologizing, absorbing the emotions of everyone around us, and calling it kindness.

We unpack the difference between doing things for love versus doing things from love—and why one leads to resentment and depletion, while the other leads to real connection, peace, and spiritual alignment.

We explore why people-pleasers are often not praised while silently suffering, how boundaries feel terrifying when your value is tied to being needed, and how easily manipulative dynamics form when you don’t know your worth.

From faith to friendship, singleness to marriage, parenting to past trauma, we get honest about the journey of untangling your identity from the approval of others.

You’ll hear us dive into:

The hidden control issues behind people-pleasing

Why “kindness” that costs you your peace is not love

The trap of performing for belonging

Over-apologizing and shrinking to keep the room comfortableHow resentment grows when love isn’t reciprocated

The void only God can fill

What it means to serve from love, not for it

The spiritual work of putting God first in relationships

The identity crisis when people no longer need you

Why enabling stunts growth (yours and theirs)

Reclaiming your voice, your limits, and your God-given identity

This episode is an invitation to step out of the cycle of earning love and into a healthier, holier, more grounded way of connecting—with God, with others, and with yourself.

If you’ve ever felt exhausted from being the strong one, the helper, or the fixer, this conversation will meet you right where you are.

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