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12: Pet Peeves - Part 1

12: Pet Peeves - Part 1

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Welcome to another episode of Heart & Hustle! Follow us for more and let us know where you found us!!

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🔑 Key Takeaways For Listeners

✅ Respect people’s time—especially for plans you initiated

✅ Save anger for what truly warrants it; stop recruiting cosigners

✅ Refuse to “play small” to fit in; be fully you

✅ Carry a power brick; manage “tabs” in your life and phone

✅ Before venting, ask: “Do you want solutions or space?”

✅ Own your triggers without making them everyone’s problem

✅ Build a leaving-the-house routine that works for your household

✅ Only take advice from people living the results

✅ Service mindset: inform, don’t surprise (in restaurants and in life)


In this episode if Heart & Hustle we talk about... PET PEEVES!!!

After noting the milestone of cruising beyond 10 episodes, Tati and Travis frame a playful, but honest, look at the everyday behaviors that quietly drain time, energy, and respect in relationships and life.


Travis opens with a heater: being late to the plans you set. For him, punctuality isn’t perfectionism; it’s character and respect, especially when kids are in the mix. Tati pairs that with a broader principle—stop getting mad at things that don’t require anger. From needless road-rage to manufacturing drama, she refuses to “cosign” other people’s spirals and saves her limited daily “cares” for what actually matters.


Next, Tati goes in on a cultural script: women watering themselves down to seem cuter, smaller, or “out of the loop.” She rejects playing dumb and the glamorization of being “so old” at 30. The point isn’t judgment; it’s identity. If you’re built for big impact, living tiny will always feel wrong. Travis counters with something practical and revealing—permanently dead phones. Not as a tech gripe, but as a readiness signal: poor battery is often poor planning and scattered attention.


Tati’s third peeve is people who complain with zero desire for a solution. Venting is valid when consented to; stewing is a choice. Bring a problem, bring willingness. Travis models what that looks like by labeling a personal trigger, lights left on, as a “me thing” he owns without making it everyone else’s burden. That rolls into his “getting out of the house” pain point and a practical strategy: he waits to get ready until the longer-prep people are truly ready.


Tati’s fourth: advice from non-practitioners (money tips from the broke; relationship tips from chaos). Her fifth is delightfully specific: aggressive gum chewing in social settings.


Travis closes with a service-industry PSA: Servers should say what’s 86’d upfront and don’t stealth-swap Sprite for Starry. Guests will choose differently when informed, and everyone wins.

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