Last week I told you the five things I do care about as a parent so today we’re flipping the script. I’m sharing the five things I absolutely do not give a shit about. Some of these I used to be type-A obsessed with, and others I’ve never cared about for even one second. Motherhood has humbled me, softened me, and honestly just rearranged my priorities in a way that feels a hell of a lot healthier.

First up: the mess. I don’t care how dirty my kid gets or how many messes he creates. We live on land. He’s outside constantly. Dirt is basically part of his DNA. I’ll still hold him accountable for cleaning up but messes usually mean we’re having fun. I’m not ruining that.

Second: where he sleeps. This one always fires people up. I couldn’t tell you what a wake window is, and I have never once stayed awake stressing about sleep schedules. If we’re rested and happy, that’s the only metric I care about. If he’s still coming into our bed in the night, perfect. I LOVE THAT SH*T!

Third: screen time. I used to be that mom - wood toys only, zero screens, crafts on crafts on crafts. And then I remembered that my husband and I run multiple six-figure businesses. The more I stress about screen time, the more he wants it. So yes, he gets some. Yes, we have boundaries. And yes, I’m totally fine with it.

Fourth: what other people think about my parenting. This took time to untangle, but we’re here now. I don’t care if my child doesn’t want to hug someone goodbye. I care about his autonomy. I’ll take advice when I ask for it, but I’m done bending my parenting to make other adults comfortable.

And fifth—the one I’m most fired up about: how he expresses himself. I do not care. At all. If my kid wants a nightgown, he’s getting the damn nightgown. Tune in to hear why I think nightgowns are ridiculously functional and how I shut my own shit down when my brain tried to make it “a thing.” We’re not teaching him how to be “a boy.” We’re teaching him how to be himself.

When we stop shoving our kids into boxes they were never meant to fit in, we actually enjoy parenting more. The real goal? Enjoy their childhood while we’re still in it. I hope this episode gives you the permission you need to release the stuff that truly doesn’t matter. Your child doesn’t need perfection. They need you - present, tuned in, and showing up.

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