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You’re Not Listening

What You’re Missing and Why It Matters
Narrated by: Kate Murphy
Length: 6 hrs and 31 mins
4 out of 5 stars (16 ratings)

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When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you?

This life-changing audiobook will transform your conversations forever.

As a society, we’ve forgotten how to listen. Modern life is noisy and frenetic, and technology provides constant distraction. So we tune things out or listen selectively - even to those we love most. We’ve become scared of other people’s points of view, and of silence.

Now more than ever, we need to listen to those around us. New York Times contributor Kate Murphy draws on countless conversations she has had with everyone from priests to CIA interrogators, focus group moderators to bartenders, her great-great aunt to her friend's toddler, to show how only by listening well can we truly connect with others.

Listening is about curiosity and patience - about asking the right questions in the right way. Improvisational comedians and con men are much better at it than most of us. And the cleverest people can be the worst at it. Listening has the potential to transform our relationships and our working lives, improve our self-knowledge, and increase our creativity and happiness. While it may take some effort, it's a skill that can be learnt and perfected.

When all we crave is to understand and be understood, You're Not Listening shows us how.

©2020 Kate Murphy (P)2020 Penguin Audio

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good science bad examples

Decent book but dont rely on CIA agents or Ronald Reagan as good role models.

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Opened my eyes (and ears)

This well read audio book kept me engaged and has given me a handful of easy to apply tips that I am using to help build stronger relationships

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  • PAVEL SUVAC
  • 23-01-2020

waist of time

One of the worst books I've ever read. The entire book can be summarized by two words: listen more.

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  • SteveN
  • 11-04-2020

Listening to This Book Will Change You

This may well be the most usefull book you will ever pick up, it is well written, read, structured and easy to listen to.

The author has put together and narrated theory, story and practical advice with easy making this an enjoyable read from cover to cover.

Do yourself and those around you a favour and simply listen to this book and apply the life changing advice within.

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  • C. Hobson
  • 21-02-2020

great

enjoyable and interesting. motivated to be a better listener! need 6 more words for the review.

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  • Mary Mercy
  • 06-06-2020

Enjoyable listen that inspires reader to do more

Whilst there’s many books on speaking, there are far fewer on listening. This author makes a passionate plea for us to do more listening and to listen better arguing it will make for improved relationships and well being. Murphy uses science and observation throughout the book whilst discussing listening observations she has drawn from a wide range of professional listeners. Lively and entertaining and ultimately a good listen

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  • D Psychology
  • 09-05-2020

worth listening

this was just excellent. I will read it again and share it with friends and family.

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  • G. Cohen
  • 02-05-2020

Learning to listen

The beginning and end of this book were interesting and I think I’ve learnt something from it. Overall I found it very hard to listen to this book, not a good start for learning to listen! It has taken me several weeks and I had to push myself to get to the end. Saying that, I feel that I am improving my listening skills, and have learnt to ask and listen to replies.
I feel a bit unfair only giving it three if I have learnt something, but that’s an honest review.