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You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For

A New Approach to Intimate Relationships with the Internal Family Systems Model

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You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For

By: Richard Schwartz
Narrated by: Mike Berlak, Martin LaGrande
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Most loving relationships fail, not because of communication or empathy breakdown, but because we unknowingly burden our partner with the task of caring for disowned and unloved parts of ourselves, our 'internal family'.

Building on the revolutionary Internal Family Systems model of therapy, Dr Richard Schwartz reveals how to reconnect and foster a healthy dialogue with your wise and compassionate 'Self' and your partner. You Are the One You've Been Waiting For will equip you with the essential tools needed to build trust and connection with the one you love.

©2023 Richard Schwartz (P)2023 Penguin Audio Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships

Critic Reviews

'This highly original book offers critical new insights into obstacles to the dance of intimacy. Most of us have inner exiled parts that carry burdens of shame and abandonment from our past. These interfere with our capacity for intimacy. Dick Schwartz shows us how to use the exiles our partners trigger in us to find and heal the source--our original attachment injuries. This releases our capacity to be fully alive in relationships.' - Bessel A. van der Kolk, MD, medical director, the Trauma Center, and professor of psychiatry, Boston University School of Medicine
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As a young adult who has ADHD, generalised anxiety disorder and is battling an eating disorder, my psychologist originally recommended I read “No Bad Parts” by the same author. (Which I did and would highly recommend) so I read this as well out of curiosity and was pleasantly surprised again. It makes so much sense and is extremely helpful in getting to better understand yourself and learn effective communication. If you have a strong inner critic, are a perfectionist or tend to dismiss yourself , IFS is such an eye opening, helpful source for unburdening those parts of you and learning self compassion. Would highly recommend (it’s an easy read too, with exercises to practice if you wish to as well)

Eye opening

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I love this and find it helpful in many ways. I will listen again, also l have more books that l have purchased using this method and l really relate to them.

It makes sense

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After listening to this Audiobook; I feel I have a new, clear paradigm for interpersonal problem resolution. 😊👍

Very insightful

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This technique is genius. I think it's going to save my marriage - IFS couples therapist booked, and I'm on a mission to get to know my parts beforehand 😭

I finally think there's hope

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