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Women Who Love Too Much

When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change
Narrated by: Ellen Archer
Length: 10 hrs and 2 mins
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Publisher's Summary

Is having 'somebody to love' the most important thing in your life? Do you constantly believe that with 'the right man' you would no longer feel depressed or lonely? Are you bored with 'nice guys' who are open, honest, and dependable? If being in love means being in pain, this book was written for you. Therapist Robin Norwood describes loving too much as a pattern of thoughts and behavior, which certain women develop as a response to problems from childhood.

Many women find themselves repeatedly drawn into unhappy and destructive relationships with men. They then struggle to make these doomed relationships work. This best-selling book takes a hard look at how powerfully addictive these unhealthy relationships are - but also gives a very specific program for recovery from the disease of loving too much.

©1985 Robin Norwood (P)2012 Penguin Audiobooks

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Best book I’ve ever read

It really helps you to understand yourself, why you do what you do, what happened as a child influences why you choose that man, unhealthy relationships, and steps to overcome your thinking.

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  • Dee
  • 06-02-2018

Wow! Life changing!

I listened to the first chapter and was hooked! Everything Robin explained was completely relatable. After my own experience's of seeing the same negative behaviour patterns in multiple relationships with men. l wish I had found this book yearshe ago!!!!

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An amazing opportunity to reflect on relationships

Highly recommended if you are in an unhappy relationship, going through a break up, or frustrated with not finding the 'right' man.

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  • Pavlina
  • Prague, Czech Republic
  • 19-03-2017

My new Bible

Where does Women Who Love Too Much rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

Essentials

What did you like best about this story?

I saw myself in it

Have you listened to any of Ellen Archer’s other performances? How does this one compare?

No

If you made a film of this book, what would be the tag line be?

Using relationships as distractions so you don't have to deal with yourself.

Any additional comments?

Really great book

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Life changing

I highly recommend this book. It helped me look at my self and relationships in my life from completely different perspective.

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  • sasha
  • 21-04-2015

Offers recovery steps.

This should be the second book each codependent woman can read. The first is codependent no more. This book thought me 9 good practical steps to recovery. However the first step should be that you have decided that you don't want to be where you are anymore. Next learn about anxious attachment style . Stop trying to help the irresponsible people around you and become the most selfish woman ever. Then welcome yourself to your new happy life.

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  • Paula Marchesini
  • 06-04-2015

Life-changing

I have read many of the great works of philosophy and literature of Western culture, but no book has had a greater impact on my practical life and on my ideas about what it is to be a woman than Women Who Love Too Much. I feel I have just been born and have a chance to live a completely different life, in which I will for the first time be able to put myself, and not some undeserving man, in first place. This is a must-read for all women, especially those of us who find our lives impaired by loving too much. I cannot think of a single girlfriend of mine who wouldn't benefit tremendously from this read. The audio version is terrific. I am about to start listening to it a second time to make sure the ideas stay fresh im my mind. I feel very grateful that this book found me and dread to think of what would have been of my life otherwise.

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  • Cary
  • 17-07-2015

Very very informative

I love this book!! AS a man who has been in a relationship with a woman who loves too much, and I myself loving too much, this book has helped me confirm the cycle, and gave multiple examples of how to stop the chaos, and start living my life, instead of what she wants, and for me to stop any form of manipulation. this book should be read by anyone, man or woman, that feels trapped and disgusted in their current relationships. I related to many of the people, though I never had substance abuse problems, or did anything unlawful. however the feelings and emotions expressed were identical to the sickness of Loving too much.

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  • Victoria Penna
  • 15-02-2017

way more helpful than i thought it would be

i had no idea how much of an intrinsic problem it was for my whole perspective on relationships to be faulty. i recommend this book to anyone who tries so hard to be perfect for the man in your life and can never succeed. Who contines to try to fix an unfixable problem. Who tries to keep everyone happy in their life all of the time. This book helped me realize the patterns I have created and how to start acknowledging them and trying to get out of being stuck never being enough for someone else. good luck

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  • Becca
  • 16-12-2015

Beautifully done

This was a book that I will put into practice and revisit when needed. It caused me to really take a look at myself and my pattern of destructive relationships. Definitely life-changing for those women who are ready for recovery.

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  • Joleen
  • 31-08-2015

game changer

book has been a significant to on helping me to understand myself and to have healthy relationships with the persons around me I truly enjoyed this and recommend it to a lot of people I know

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 03-02-2013

Finally Understand Why I Hurt So Much

If you could sum up Women Who Love Too Much in three words, what would they be?

Thanks to this book, I know what I need to do to get help.

What other book might you compare Women Who Love Too Much to and why?

Any other books on codependency recovery

Which character – as performed by Ellen Archer – was your favorite?

No favoirte. All was good.

What did you learn from Women Who Love Too Much that you would use in your daily life?

Continue christian growth

Any additional comments?

I now have hope for a better future.

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  • Gail
  • 28-09-2013

Life Altering!

My headline says it all. This book changed the way I look at everything.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 13-09-2016

so helpful!

Excellent book. I identified worth nearly every story. I believe understanding why I choose the relationships I do has given me the strength to leave my current abusive relationship. I know I need to work on myself alone before I can truly be loved and accept love. I also appreciate that the writer doesn't make this topic all about Christianity.

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  • jeanettia anderson
  • 05-10-2015

I learned alot about myself & the healing process

I'm not well, I will be, this book shows me how to heal myself thanks

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  • Samantha croker
  • 07-02-2015

Brilliant

A must read for any woman who feels like she's never gunna find the right way forward when it comes to men. More importantly it teaches you the path to guide you if you wish to change the pattern of relationships when they are not healthy, not doing you any good. Makes you take a look at yourself and I'm so glad I read this.., !! :)

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  • Freya
  • 12-12-2017

Life changing for me

This book is one of those books that I will quote as being influential in changing the way I think. My impulse is to buy several copies and give them to friends & family! Beautifully written & spoken. I will listen to this more than once, a rarity for me.

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  • C. M. White
  • 03-11-2017

So accurate

I have recently come out of an abusive relationship with a narcissist and have found this book incredibly helpful in understanding the dynamics that led to such a relationship. It does not seek to blame anyone but yet empowers the reader to examine their childhood and the reasons for their relationship choices. I loved it.

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  • Susan
  • 01-01-2016

excellence

before i read it I thought it was a waste of time listening/reading this book....how wrong I was, although my problems are not as deep as a lot of the examples ....ii still have issues/problems and this book hifhlighted them.

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  • Anna
  • 27-09-2015

My new Bible:)

It's like I just want to write "why I didn't discovered this book before? My life could be so different." But the truth is that before my all bad experience with men I probably would not be able to understand this book at all 'cause I wasn't ready. After my last heartbreak which cost me almost my life I knew I need help because I thought something is wrong with me. Reading this book (or listening in this case) is eyes opening experience . Now I understand and I'm ready to recover.
So if you are here, reading this now and considering to get this book for yourself, you are probably ready too. Go for it.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 18-02-2019

Revealing

I found this book very insightful and interesting. It's helpful for anyone struggling in a relationship were they feel they are working really hard to make it work and trying to understanding what they are doing wrong.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 18-02-2019

Life Changing!!

AMAZING!!!!! This book has helped me make sense of a particularly chaotic past & re-evaluate my life. Life changing.

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  • Nai Ro Bi
  • 22-01-2019

Great book with good insights

Great book with a lot of examples and insights. Did find it too repetitive the second half of the book (except for the step-by-step guide which is great) and think there could have been more varied examples.

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  • I. daraban
  • 19-02-2018

Eye opening book!

I got to learn so much about myself and how I behave in a relationship, especially why!
I never got to the same state as the women in my book but I guess it can be a matter of luck. I am now taking most of the steps advised and I can see a clear pattern in my behaviour. a great book to help you get on the amazing journey of getting to know , accept and love youself.

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  • Jack
  • 28-01-2018

Best Book Ever Read On Why We Act The Way We Do

This is a must read for both men and women. In my opinion a lot relationships could be better understood by the contents of this book. Parents should also read this book so as not to knowingly or unknowingly passing on generational family problems. This book is truely going to be one of the greats.