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Wired for Dating

How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate
Narrated by: Jonathan Yen
Length: 7 hrs and 20 mins
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Publisher's Summary

Everybody wants someone to love and spend time with, and searching for your ideal partner is a natural and healthy human tendency. Just about everyone dates at some point in their life, yet few really understand what they're doing or how to get the best results.

In Wired for Dating, psychologist and relationship expert Stan Tatkin - author of Wired for Love - offers powerful tips based in neuroscience and attachment theory to help you find a compatible mate and go on to create a fabulous relationship. Using real-life scenarios, you'll learn key concepts about how people become attracted to potential partners and move toward or away from commitment and the important role the brain and nervous system play in this process. Each chapter explores the scientific concepts of attachment theory, arousal regulation, and neuroscience. And with a little practice, you'll learn to apply these exercises and practical techniques to your dating life.

If you're ready to get serious (or not!) about dating, meet your match, and have more fun, this book will be your guide.

©2016 Stan Tatkin (P)2016 Tantor

Critic Reviews

"Useful exercises, such as how to use mindful breath to calm oneself, how to soothe a partner, and even how to break up constructively, are sprinkled throughout." ( Publishers Weekly)

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excellent book! totally recommend

loved it! totally opened my eyes. I have been in a relationship for 10 years. never knew what to look out for etc. now separated. want to try Internet dating. this book really make me understand more about relationships. so thank you.

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Very useful!

I'm so glad to having read this book! It opened my eyes on my mistakes in former relationship failures. Tactics and methods in this book are valuable both for those who just started dating and to already married

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Annoying voice of narrator

The book was recommended to me and the content was great, lots of useful tips on finding a mate and then maintaining the relationship. The narrator's voice is really nasal which made it a struggle to listen to.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 12-08-2018

Must Reading before Dating!

I highly recommend this book for anyone starting to date, particularly after divorce. It is an extremely useful tool for staying calm in the ups and downs of the dating world, increasing the likelihood of success, and gaining insight about past relationships and whether the people you're starting to see are a good fit. and because no two people are perfect matches, it is also very helpful in illustrating how to work through the rough spots..

If you're looking for what might be one of the most important events of your life, i e a long-term relationship or even marriage, why wouldn't you want to be well prepared?

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  • ZestyFresh
  • 14-11-2018

Great!!

Tatkin illuminated the "end goal" to all this dating I've been doing, which is charecteristics of a secure relationship! He also includes some great quizzes to help you identify your attachment profile. I'm an island dating a wave (I thought it was reverse)!! Blah, blah, blah- I can't say enough good stuff about this book. A list of Pros: Its tailored to individuals prior to commitment so, I learned a lot more about negotiating partnership than I did in than in, "Wired for Love." I also appreciated that how he lovingly addressed the unhealthier spectrums of attachment. I simultaneously listened to Tatkin's audio program: Relationship Rx, which Tatkin himself narrates, and I appreciated the difference between Yen's tempo and Tatkin's. Yen's narration of the couple's arguments was at times real and others hilarious! An enjoyable read!

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  • tfarmer
  • 10-06-2018

Title is misleading

The title of this book is misleading as there is very little science referenced in the book. As others noted, the narrator has a style that is a little too excited. It is good because it is not monotone, but it is a little like listening to a children’s book. 1/3 of this book was useful and 2/3 is common sense for anyone with any level of life experience. This is not a book I will keep in my collection to read again.

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  • Amberzon
  • 31-03-2018

Enjoyed!

I didn't want it to end,
however, I found the suggested dialogue was not always realistic. Excellent content. Really gives you something to think about.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 10-04-2017

Excited About Love

I have spent years moving too fast in relationships and this will allow me to have a set tools to properly manage the amount of time I spend determining whether I've met my match or need to keep options open.
I recommend this is for everyone, even married couples.

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  • Jeremy Lyne
  • 04-09-2016

Great book! Great info. Didn't like the narrator.

The info Stan presents is perfect for learning how to date and about oneself. The narrator's voice inflections made it sound like he was reading to children. He would "do" the voices for people in the story,, but they didn't seem to deflect the distress or feeling that the words conveyed which felt confusing.

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  • Jenn C. Charles
  • 25-07-2016

Good for you, if you're an anchor

I enjoyed this book because it helped me identify some communication styles that were not helping me. He introduced me to 3 styles of dating. I do think the author did make it seem like unless you're an "anchor" or dating an anchor the relationship will be difficult. Which was a bit disappointing.

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  • Scott Mann
  • 27-05-2016

Excellent book

Excellent book to have a fulfilling relationship. Also to understand the difference personalities and how to work with each.

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  • Sara
  • 03-11-2017

Very elementary stuff and bad narration.

This is a book for people no nothing about physiology and basic behavior. Absolutely no insights for a normally educated person. Although I only could get through chapter 6. I’m returning. And the narrator sounds like a voice from pharma ads. Awful.

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  • MLeif
  • 15-01-2020

so insightful

love all the explanations, especially the concrete pacts explained at the end to make as a couple. I will definitely be using it when the occasion arises.

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  • Ann
  • 26-12-2018

Monotone and drab narration.

I'm very interested in this topic but found the narration very drab and monotone and found the narrator's use of different voices during conversations as infantile and irritating.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 20-08-2019

Insightful

Really love this book. Specially the part where the author disects the attachment styles of individuals. No doubt that specific knoweledge is extremely useful when in a relationship. I found the beginning of the book a bit boring and I must admit I almost gave up listening to it. I'm glad I didn't though. I feel I have learnt a lot about myself and have developed a new skill as a result of sticking until the end. I definitely recommend it!