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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Length: 6 hrs and 40 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (163 ratings)

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Real life counselling sessions

Be a fly on the wall during these electric, intimate conversations about modern day relationships
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Publisher's Summary

Featuring consensually recorded counselling sessions, Belgian therapist and TED alum Esther Perel walks her clients through the ways in which relationships can break down, play out and build back up again. This bold experiment in intimacy, offers listeners the chance to eavesdrop on the failing relationships of real couples. 

As experiences, feelings and frustrations are laid bare for all to hear, the all too familiar tragedies that contribute to broken relationships can be both heartbreaking and life-affirming. 

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel presents a powerful and insightful exploration of modern day relationships. 

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I'd recommend this to all couples

I am a male and have been married for 2 years but together for 5 we have no issues in our relationship but this has also made me think of ways to make sure it stays on track and know what to expect when we have kids not pro women or pro men its neutral...... which is a surprise in this day and age

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The insight you get with other people's stories

Totally love the insights you get from listening to other people's stories and relationship issues. Esther Perel has an amazing ability to guide people to dig deeper, to come up with the root cause of the problem. I can listen to her for hours on end

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Great analysis of a marriage in crisis

authentic, relatable, thought-provoking, wise. Esther cleverly guides this couple through their respective sense of betrayal, disappointment and emotional breakdown.

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great read

really interesting and thought provoking. I found myself in some of the stories. worthy read

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A really good insight

This podcast was a really good insight into other people's relationships and struggles, it helps you realise there are other people going through similar stuff and that it can be worked on. I enjoyed listening to this book.

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Recommend this for everyone!

Esther has a fascinating way of working out the dynamics and issues in these relationships and there is something you can pick up and learn from every episode. its a must read

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Brilliant!

Esther Perel gives master classes in how to conduct one session therapy that are breathtakingly brilliant. And so much more as well. She fosters personal growth in the listener as well. I am in awe of her!
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Brilliant Insight into relationships

Real life counseling sessions with couples dealing with often complex issues. Well worth listening to. Highly recommended.

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A must listen.

Really enjoyed this one! it felt strange to be privileged with the insights of other couples troubles. Stranger more that I could relate to almost all of the people and there hardships! Learnt alot... and will learn more as this will be listened to again.

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Mind blowing

I really learned and enjoyed listening to it and it helped me to have better understanding in general. Thank you everyone. I recommend it to all couples with or without problems.

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  • SJPagey
  • 02-03-2018

Personal conversations, universal connections

If you could sum up Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel in three words, what would they be?

Powerful, fascinating, uplifting

What was one of the most memorable moments of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel?

Esther: 'Ok, do you want to be right, or do you want to listen?'

Have you listened to any of the narrator’s other performances? How does this one compare?

I haven't. Esther has a beautiful, soft French accent that provides a calm, safe space for the participants. You can hear the emotion in their voices too. Powerful stuff.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

Every episode has a moment of connection, where - despite the particular circumstances of the couple's experiences - their fears and struggles resonated with me personally.

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  • Viv
  • 12-04-2018

Mind blowing!

Would you consider the audio edition of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel to be better than the print version?

I prefer the audible version of books. It makes me understand books better. I hardly read printed books. I have not this book in print either.

What other book might you compare Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel to, and why?

The Examined Life by Stephen Grosz. This books also gives real life stories that I feel I can connect and understand. However, Esther's book goes even further by providing the true narrative of ordinary people. It is fantastic and so so so useful. Helpfult to all of us.

What does the narrator bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you had only read the book?

Narrative expressed by the person with feeling and connection

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Yes! I so wanted to finish this recording in one setting, but did not have time but got through so quickly. Now I feel bereft and I want to listen more.

Any additional comments?

Don't have too many boxes of questions! Put all in one:)

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  • Karen P.
  • 17-01-2020

not really my kind of thing

listening to other peoples problems isnt realt my idea of fun . I had a listen as it was free. the advice she gives the couples seems to help them feel better.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 13-02-2020

Therapeutical

I found each episode therapeutical. I recommend it to anyone, no matter their marital status.

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  • JP
  • 31-01-2020

Fantastic

Fantastic, I learnt a lot from each episode I highly recommend checking this out. It will improve your social and emotional intelligence.

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  • Dev Preston
  • 07-11-2019

Insightful and instructive

Perel's insightful couples counsell8ng provides lots to learn for anyone in a relationship. Couples included cover a wide range of lifestyles and experiences.

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  • Elle
  • 12-10-2019

Insightful and full of learning

Esther's wisdom and respect for people make this programme a shining light on healing relationships.

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  • Kira Gusakova
  • 05-08-2019

I lived with every couple though their story

Incredibly eye opening, not only does it show you what were are missing in daily routine but drives you to value and work on your own partnership. Esther Peres is amazing woman, inspiration change agent.

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  • Sean Kindle
  • 27-05-2019

Captivating

A unique and remarkable listen. As a counselling student I was hooked on the intriguing stories of the clients and the humour of Esther as well as her talent of easing a person into what is for some an uncomfortable experience. Some moments you can laugh and some moments are you have goosebumps from hearing a moment someone has began the process of grieving and letting something go. Well done all involved.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 17-05-2019

Real talk

you could feel how the couple has struggled with the basics of how we stay in a long term relationship with eachother.