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When I Say No, I Feel Guilty

Narrated by: Jonathan Todd Ross
Length: 11 hrs and 58 mins
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The best seller that helps you say, "I just said 'no', and I don't feel guilty!"

Are you letting your kids get away with murder? Are you allowing your mother-in-law to impose her will on you? Are you embarrassed by praise or crushed by criticism? Are you having trouble coping with people?

Learn the answers in When I Say No, I Feel Guilty, the best seller with revolutionary new techniques for getting your own way.

©2016 Manuel J. Smith (P)2016 Random House Audio

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awesome

loved the book and will listen to again. I found it very interesting and will share the knowledge with friends

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  • Angie
  • 07-01-2017

Wow! What do you know...

This book actually was effective. There is a lot of repetitious "role play" that at first started to get on my nerves, but once I realized- "OH! He is ACTUALLY teaching by examples!" It started coming together! Author makes good on the Help part of this book. It actually does and it opened my mind to be less tense about "things". We each are our own captains, to naturally be a part of any process we come across. Just being a "Yes" man robs people of experience, creative control. But that is the true reason we are alive- to create OUR experiences.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 13-07-2017

One of the most usefull books I've experienced.

I can't say enough how helpful this book has been for me. No fluff and no nonsense; just real, practical advice for dealing with yourself and others in a non-defensive and non-manipulative way.

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  • Stargazer Lily
  • 10-07-2018

Culturally dated, single message, limited scope

There are some valuable tools here, however the book is limited in scope and background which makes this approach simplistic and formulaic. Many hours are spent on sample dialogue which are helpful but become repetitive. This book includes examples of how to speak in different situations from store clerks to sexual encounters with acquaintances or partners.

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  • Ivanir Ribeiro dos Santos
  • 11-05-2019

This book was an investment to me.

This book was very helpful. I cannot afford a therapist at this time and I wanted to improve my communication skills and this book was amazingly helpful. I have the audiobook and print version that’s how much I valued this book. I hope the advice in this book is as helpful to you as it was for me, I wish I had read it decades ago.....

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  • Fabian
  • 24-03-2019

Don't buy another audiobook for assertiveness!

This is the most practical book you will find about assertiveness. As a psychology graduate student, this was the most helpful audiobook on the topic. This audiobook together with Dr. David Burn's book on anxiety have made the biggest impact in my battle with anxiety.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-02-2020

Not for a stubborn person

This book gives great tips and ideas for how to handle more everyday situations with other people. What it does not do, in my opinion, is give enough examples regarding marriage and possible divorce. The reason for the headline...if you’re a person who thinks they’re already perfect, you’re mind is not open enough to look at this information objectively enough to actually learn anything from this book.

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  • Napoleon
  • 09-11-2019

Well written..

Essentially this book teaches you how to be assertive on your needs. As well as keeping you from taking responsibilities for others needs. Highly recommend this to anyone wanting to learn how to be more assertive.

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  • Roman S7
  • 04-09-2019

Have healthier relationships

Fantastic book on how to be assertive in our daily communication. The author outlines healthy communication in a way in which you stand up for what you believe while allowing the other person to make their own choices, thus allowing for mutual compromise if that is possible.either way we get to maintain our own power and our communication and in our lives.

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  • parker
  • 02-04-2019

Finally, actual tools to be assertive

I’ve listen to probably six or seven books about assertiveness or saying no, and this is the only one that actually breaks down the conversations and the techniques to do it. Such a breath of fresh air and I’m already starting to change the way I interact with people

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  • Anonymous User
  • 29-01-2019

Exceptional

This book got me by surprise. I did not expect such useful info from a 1971 book. The book is easy to understand and example heavy which makes it easy to self assert. I've read some critical comments about how old this book feels yet that is not how I experienced this book. Some critics even went as far as marking the book as misogynistic and self-congratulatory which is also not true. It is incredibly progressive for the time and it feels very current. Essential book; pretty sure for everyone!

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  • styles
  • 29-03-2017

Old but gold

It was only midway through the book when the author talked about Marlon Brando that I realised how old this book was.

Everything in it is still relevant.

I got a lot from this book and will read again.

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  • Stephen
  • 26-06-2020

repetitive but very necessary

As a counselling therapist I found this book to be excellent at explaining the ideas and the points. It was rather repetitive listening to the same words however it took me untill the end before I could start calling out the interactions myself. clearly this repetition is needed to embed the learning and I intend to listen to it again and to recommend it to clients. Great easy learning, a must read.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 14-03-2020

Great book, love it

Might be old, but some principles apply. People are usually mad when you do this to them, but it works so well in sorting out whats wrong. Thanks

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  • andrea
  • 13-02-2019

hardworking but interested

found it hard to listen to and get into at times. I peservered and would say it's intriguing enough to get through to the end

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  • Ife Owofemi
  • 03-02-2019

no u

A fantastical work of art with a great and broad application of how to live ones life for themselves.

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