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  • Vanilla to Kinky: The Beginner's Guide to BDSM and Kink

  • Discover the Keys to How to Be Dominant or Submissive in The Bedroom: BDSM Basics, Book 1
  • By: Jonathan Wolf
  • Narrated by: Zachary Zaba
  • Length: 2 hrs and 13 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook
  • Categories: Erotica, Sex Instruction
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (16 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Do you want to stay in the same vanilla sex routine forever? Or are you ready to bring more pleasure and excitement to your sex life starting today?

What do you think when you hear “BDSM?” I’ll tell you what most people think. Most people think whips, chains, pain, and crying. They think only “evil” or “mentally ill” people enjoy these types of things. They think of the most corrupt things they can because of the way that mainstream media misrepresents BDSM.

BDSM has become more popular than ever in recent years. Only a few decades ago only 10-15 percent of surveyed people reported engaging in BDSM. Since then that number has increased by nearly 90 percent. Even though BDSM is gaining popularity many people still feel guilty for having BDSM related fantasies.

I’m here to tell you there is abosultely no reason to feel guilty. BDSM is much broader than it seems and when done correctly, is completely safe and healthy.

If given the chance, BDSM can be the most sincere display of love and affection between you and your partner.

Whether you are somewhat familiar with BDSM or not familiar at all, don’t miss out on what could be a life-changing experience because of misconceptions and miseducation.

Vanilla to Kinky will help you discover:

  • What aspects of BDSM are best for you
  • How to partake in BDSM the right way
  • How to find your role
  • How to create amazingly intense scenes
  • How to find the dynamic you love the most
  • How toys can enhance your BDSM experience
  • The keys to being a good Dominant
  • The keys to being a good submissive
  • Helpful tips to get you started on your journey

BDSM is for anybody. It does not discriminate against any ages, genders, or body type. Yes, even an average joe like you can partake in safe and healthy BDSM.

BDSM is a journey that can be truly rewarding every time but will take effort, patience, and self-examination. If you want to begin your journey then this is where you start.

©2019 SL. Jeet (P)2019 SL. Jeet

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Great book.

love it a little below my level but still enjoyed it. Great reading and easy to sit right through.

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informative on the basics

Good for understanding the basics and friendly for the curious but unsure of their feelings but does have a male bias.

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Great for beginners

As an experienced Dom with many years in the BDSM scene this book is an excellent beginners guide. The title states exactly what the book is and that is about transitioning from one idea about sex to another, in this case BDSM. It takes the novice on a step by step journey and constantly reinforces the number one priority of communication. It is easy to listen to and down to earth and encourages you to do nothing more than safely explore once you have finished the book. Well done.

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  • Crystal Johnson
  • 02-07-2021

No

Although, I’m new to BDSM. This did not shed any light or answer the questions I thought it would. I’m curious because I am exploring my own sexuality. However, I feel like this book was not at all what I was looking for. It also references that BDSM is therapy. Which is not correct and should not be used in that way!

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  • Michele Mayhugh
  • 18-01-2021

A little concerned

It seems that the flood of people who claim to understand the lifestyle and are so adamant about that may have read or listen to this book. While the information is mostly accurate many implications and statements are wrong or just rude.

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  • Zach, a satisfied customer
  • 21-03-2021

Simple, straightforward concepts of BDSM

This is a short audiobook of fewer than 3 hours, and it introduced me to the wide world of BDSM and provided lifelong advice for even those who choose to be vanilla despite learning about it, namely: consent and communication are everything. It's never wise to violate the firm sexual boundaries of your partner and to never badger someone into having sex with you; these are part of the code that every person wanting a sexual relationship should maintain religiously.

Of course, learning about the various kinds of kinks, sex toys, and the suggestions of the author are also valid.

Loved it.

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  • Pamela Langhorne
  • 23-10-2019

Great for quick reference

A good reference, but Wolf's writing style is very dry. I don't recommend trying to listen to this for leisure or in one straight shot unless you like being thrown a barrage of facts. I was given this free review copy audiobook at my request and have voluntarily left this review.

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  • InevitablyWierd
  • 26-07-2022

good

This is a good beginner's guide to the alternative lifestyle and covers a majority of the basics that are needed to know.

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  • Gabrielle
  • 13-06-2022

Vanilla to Kinky

This book is for someone who is very new to the idea of BDSM and what it entails. It is a short book that gives you the basic ideas and definitions of the world and some of the things used and done within it. Much of the information is repeated in many of the chapters. The information enclosed is straightforward and easy to understand but very basic. Zachary Zeba’s narration is clear but a bit monotone.

I was given this free review copy audiobook at my request and have voluntarily left this review.

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  • Angel SanchezWalker
  • 13-04-2022

Great beginner guide

I really enjoyed this the voice was wonderful the book read well it doesn’t get boring even when things are discussed that I already know I think everyone should read this book 1st

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  • JAG
  • 07-11-2021

to much like all the other books on the subject

the narration was excellent the story was ok not bad at all . just didn't learn anything new from it. however if you are just getting into the world off bdsm I think this book has some helpful things in it to get you going on a safe and enjoyable adventure

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  • Waylon hinman
  • 22-10-2021

best way of understanding about kink

I was hooked from the first chapter. lots of useful information about bsdm and the world of pleasure

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  • Anita B.
  • 14-08-2021

Just the basics please

This book offers some basic information for the vanilla to the hard core. Worth the read.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 12-09-2019

Stumbled across & didn't regret

Whilst trying to find a good BDSM book to expand my knowledge this is perfect.

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